My husband's ex-girlfriend

I don't know what denomination your husband or you are, but from where I come from, someone generally gets baptized a LONG time before they become a minister. And, if you knew that your husband was involved in ministry at this church before you got married, you should have known he wouldn't just drop it BECAUSE he got married. You should be in ministry with him.

In regard to the ex-girlfriend, I think she's really a non-issue in this case. She has a relationship with his family, why should she be required to severe that relationship if they parted on good terms?

If you're concerned about his actions and excluding you, it could be because you're not trying to be a part of that aspect of his life. To be completely honest, unless you change your ways and become more involved in his "church" life, I don't hold out hope for the marriage lasting. I hate to sound like a doomsayer, but I really don't see that you're making the effort to make the marriage work.

Hi Thank you both for your comments, but I have just found out that the supposedly ex-girlfriend was more than just a ex-girlfriend just like I suspected. They have been having an affair while we were engaged and when I was attending the church. I am very religious and totally believe in following your husband, but I had a gut feeling about what was going on in the church, so this is why I pulled back. His pastor is now pulling him from his ministry duties because of this behavior and now everything make sense. I will totally forgive him for this and will now support him at the Church, but I could not support something that I didn't feel right about. I prayed on it many times, but something held me back. I believe if I would have continued it could have been a very big blowout at the church. And by me not going to the church did reveal what was really going on, because from what I understand his entire demeanor and excuses to the church did not make sense to anyone there. He was revealed and I am embarrassed for him, but still love him. I will continue to pray for us and now we can heal slowly.

u shouldnt worried if his ex goes to that same church .. im married and me and my husbands exes are in the same church as we are and that doesnt stopp us from serving God .. about the other thing about hiding that he got baptizied u should speak ya both should be hoest with each other and let everything out in teh table ya married now so now ya gotta work at it.. u can't go back wards now

u think divorce will fix the differences ya having , wat about the love ya felted think about the good things you shared instead about that one negative issue u facing u cant give up , then that will be an issue u gonna run from not only ur marriage but on other things....

if that was a n issue 4 me we would of not even gotten married cause too many things me and my husband are facing but we are growing together ..

be with him in the ministry dont stay back u are somebody God called ya as one not his ministry its both of ya okayy let him know that

I am a Pastor's wife... Go with him. You guys are one now and I want to encourage you to have trust in your husband and your relationship with him.

Women will try anything to get at ministers/pastors, I know from experience, my husband's ex contacted him from a streaming network that our ministry is on. He was actually very put out that she would stoop that low. It was handled and she hasn't attempted again.

Put aside your emotions in this matter regarding her and her silly tactics and know who you are in your marriage and support your husband and his calling. She is no threat...it's just a game for her to get you worked up. She knows you are uncomfortable and that you are not there with him, so she is pulling these stunts to work you up.

Be the bigger person... Go to church with your man and show him that you support him despite your love for the church. In doing so, you show him that you love him unconditionally and in time either she will leave the church or you all will be called to another one.