My husband and I have had a great relationship up until about 2 months ago. He is caring, helps with the children, cooks dinners, provides well for his family etc, etc. We are a young couple and decided to have a 3-some with an acquaintance which went well with no issues, we actually where closer afterwards. We didn't expect the same scenario to happen so soon after but about 4 months later it happened again with a mutual female friend, now before any of these two events occurred we discussed rules, that we use protection, not to much intimacy with the third party and no oral on the other girl because he has always told me he didn't like it and didn't do it to me so I didn't think it was fair if she got that special treatment.
In both situations he ate them out especially with the second encounter he was asking her a lot to eat her out. I asked him later why he doesn't eat me out but will eat her out and he said I taste weird. I always thought I was clean I take showers daily and I have never heard a comment from previous relationships about this. I asked him why he did it and that I told him not to, his reply was that he didn't hear me say that. and then I made him very aware that I was hurt and we are never going to have any other sexual encounters with another girl again. We agreed because we felt it wasn't healthy for our relationship and from what I saw he wanted to work on it I read to put honey on my special area to make it taste better. So one night I made it special and took a shower, lit candles, put some loungerie on and got some honey that night went well it seemed to help a lot the next week we where at the farmers market and he even bought me some honey so I was proud he was trying.
Then a week after going to the market I decided to take a shower and use some honey he got mad at me and said he wasn't going to to it and that he didn't like it... he claimed up again....... Since then I have not gone down on him and we rarely have sex... we used to have sex 4-5 times a week at least now its about 1 time every two weeks.
It has been this way now for about a month and a half we finally made our first apt to a marriage counselor but It seems like until then which it is 15 days away it just keeps getting worse and worse. I am not even turned on by the thought of sex with him anymore because he thinks my vagina is gross... he also lied to me about not liking it for years and It pisses me off that he would do it to this other woman who gets around the block but not to me, his wife. I also have been fantasizing about maybe meeting up with another person... I know I never will but it bothers me that I am fantasizing about someone else....
Is there any one going through this same situation or if you where what would you do... I just want my marriage to be like it was, happy, healthy, and loving.
In both situations he ate them out especially with the second encounter he was asking her a lot to eat her out. I asked him later why he doesn't eat me out but will eat her out and he said I taste weird. I always thought I was clean I take showers daily and I have never heard a comment from previous relationships about this. I asked him why he did it and that I told him not to, his reply was that he didn't hear me say that. and then I made him very aware that I was hurt and we are never going to have any other sexual encounters with another girl again. We agreed because we felt it wasn't healthy for our relationship and from what I saw he wanted to work on it I read to put honey on my special area to make it taste better. So one night I made it special and took a shower, lit candles, put some loungerie on and got some honey that night went well it seemed to help a lot the next week we where at the farmers market and he even bought me some honey so I was proud he was trying.
Then a week after going to the market I decided to take a shower and use some honey he got mad at me and said he wasn't going to to it and that he didn't like it... he claimed up again....... Since then I have not gone down on him and we rarely have sex... we used to have sex 4-5 times a week at least now its about 1 time every two weeks.
It has been this way now for about a month and a half we finally made our first apt to a marriage counselor but It seems like until then which it is 15 days away it just keeps getting worse and worse. I am not even turned on by the thought of sex with him anymore because he thinks my vagina is gross... he also lied to me about not liking it for years and It pisses me off that he would do it to this other woman who gets around the block but not to me, his wife. I also have been fantasizing about maybe meeting up with another person... I know I never will but it bothers me that I am fantasizing about someone else....
Is there any one going through this same situation or if you where what would you do... I just want my marriage to be like it was, happy, healthy, and loving.