I just found this site after another heated argument about sex. My husband and I have been married for 8 years today and we have an all in all great relationship....THIS is our only downfall. We have sex at least every 2 to 3 days. And ONLY if my husband wants it. Rarely do I actually try to initiate, but when I do, I am usually turned down. I dont know how it happens, but he will get in the mood, then he cant get it off his mind and he DEFINITELY cant wait a day or two, or even a few hours without getting obnoxious. Everything turns into a sexual innuendo (sp?). He has to whip it out every chance he gets and show it to me, he asks me to do this or do that, If I say I am busy or not in the mood, or maybe a little later, he will say something to make me feel guilty. I dont know how he does it. And the fact that he makes me feel guilty about it just makes me furious. I feel like I hate sex more and more because its my obligation to him and It is somethign that is almost forced by guilt. If I say something to him about him being "sexually obnoxious" he gets offended and then somehow I am the bad guy becuase first of all, I wont put out and now, i am just being mean. His attitude toward sex is so unappealing, that it makes me hate the thought of having sex. What do I do or say that would make him understand how I feel without being able to turn it back around to make me the bad guy again? I mean, afterall, the man isnt deprived, he IS having sex every couple of days. Somebody help me!