After he hit you what did you do?
What you did after he smacked you will determine what he will do in the future.
What you did after he smacked you will determine what he will do in the future.
He has always had a temper, never has it become physical with me though. He has hit the walls when we were dating, and does get loud when arguing
:iagree:After he hit you what did you do?
What you did after he smacked you will determine what he will do in the future.
Yes, this. Tell him if he ever hits you again, you'll leave him. Let him know it is unacceptable at any level.Oh hell no.
Put your foot down NOW. If you don't, he'll get it in his head that you're okay with being treated like that.
I should have left my ex the first time he smacked me but I didn't. It became years of physical abuse.
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hmmm, wonder where he got that from? like father, like son.I told him not to touch me. Then I was the one that ended up saying sorry. Which I now know was wrong.
He has a problem with my son because we have sons that are the same age (11) and I get a lot of compliments on how well behanved my son is (not bragging) and his sons is a terror. (I do love himSo he has a problem with that.
LOLI'm happy to say I've not been in this situation. Being involved with violent men haven't been my thing. That said, I've run this scenario in my mind a few times and being the type of person I am, I'd know exactly what to do next if ever it happened to me.
Let's just say it involves him being severely injured within minutes after his hitting me. I'm a fighter. I will fight a man if I have to. He would think twice about doing it again because the consequences would be laid out for him as clear as a pane of glass. You put your hands on me again your ass is going to jail if I don't half kill you first.
You would think that, but until you're in a position where someone much bigger and stronger than you comes after you the realization that fighting back is futile sets in.I'm happy to say I've not been in this situation. Being involved with violent men haven't been my thing. That said, I've run this scenario in my mind a few times and being the type of person I am, I'd know exactly what to do next if ever it happened to me.
Let's just say it involves him being severely injured within minutes after his hitting me. I'm a fighter. I will fight a man if I have to. He would think twice about doing it again because the consequences would be laid out for him as clear as a pane of glass. You put your hands on me again your ass is going to jail if I don't half kill you first.
Thing is about me... I don't fear a man like that. Maybe it's psychotic but I'm telling you with every fiber of my being we'll both be dead if that's what it takes.You would think that, but until you're in a position where someone much bigger and stronger than you comes after you the realization that fighting back is futile sets in.
I would have always thought I would have fought back, too. Ya know, a swift kick between the legs. Never happened. I was too fvcking scared he's get up and kill me in a murderous rage. You think more about calming him (like the OP did by "apologizing"). You think about appeasing him and getting his mind off of the anger. Anything to stop the violence. Becoming violent will only be seen as a challenge and I learned that the hard way. If they weren't going to hurt you before, they sure as hell are going to make you pay if you fight back.
Aside that, many abusers will turn the tables on you and report YOU for being violent against THEM.
Looks good in a fantasy, but life is not like the movies. Sh!t like that will get you seriously hurt. Much more than a smack.
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