We got married 2 years ago and it was an arranged marriage. I'm 28 years now and my husband is 37 years.
He's got problem with showing affection, intimacy and various other things. I knew he doesn't know how to show his feelings and to talk to me romantically. But I thought he will be alright. Actually the best word is he's like a robot. I'm not mad at him or anything. But I really can't understand what type of a person he is. He doesn't even know how to give an intimate kiss.
( I haven't told him about it, didn't wanna hurt him)
I really like to get a kiss from him but he doesn't feel like initiating anything and when I try to give him a kiss then he kiss me back and it's so rough. I think he doesn't have feelings.
I like to have sex with him and when I ask him he says ok and he lie on the bed lazily and I have to do everything. He likes when I touch him. But he has never touched my vagina or he's not bothered to look at it. but we make love and I really don't feel anything and it hurts because he doesn't want to think if I'm satisfied or not. and I have talked about these to him and he's trying to change but he just can't do it.
last week he said he's disgusted and that's why he can't touch it. I'm a clean person and I'm not ugly too. people say I'm very pretty. He has watched porn and he said he has stopped it now. He even said he doesn't understand how to have sex. But I said if you are watching porn then you can't say you don't know. (I didn't get angry and told him nicely). Then he said he doesn't feel like and feel shy. (He doesn't look at me when I'm naked even. He doesn't care).
It's so hard for me to bear all these things and sometimes I get angry. But I don't shout at him. and I stay quiet. He gets angry when I stay without talking to him. and he starts fighting with me. I feel really sad. A week ago we had a fight too and he said he wants to get a divorce if I can't live with him without fighting. I'm not purposely doing that. He said he wants to be happy and me to be happy. But he doesn't care about my feelings he just say that.
I loved him a lot and now I don't love him like before. Why is he doing like this? Can you all give your ideas please. I'm ok with anything, I just want to understand this.
He's got problem with showing affection, intimacy and various other things. I knew he doesn't know how to show his feelings and to talk to me romantically. But I thought he will be alright. Actually the best word is he's like a robot. I'm not mad at him or anything. But I really can't understand what type of a person he is. He doesn't even know how to give an intimate kiss.
( I haven't told him about it, didn't wanna hurt him)I really like to get a kiss from him but he doesn't feel like initiating anything and when I try to give him a kiss then he kiss me back and it's so rough. I think he doesn't have feelings.
I like to have sex with him and when I ask him he says ok and he lie on the bed lazily and I have to do everything. He likes when I touch him. But he has never touched my vagina or he's not bothered to look at it. but we make love and I really don't feel anything and it hurts because he doesn't want to think if I'm satisfied or not. and I have talked about these to him and he's trying to change but he just can't do it.
last week he said he's disgusted and that's why he can't touch it. I'm a clean person and I'm not ugly too. people say I'm very pretty. He has watched porn and he said he has stopped it now. He even said he doesn't understand how to have sex. But I said if you are watching porn then you can't say you don't know. (I didn't get angry and told him nicely). Then he said he doesn't feel like and feel shy. (He doesn't look at me when I'm naked even. He doesn't care).
It's so hard for me to bear all these things and sometimes I get angry. But I don't shout at him. and I stay quiet. He gets angry when I stay without talking to him. and he starts fighting with me. I feel really sad. A week ago we had a fight too and he said he wants to get a divorce if I can't live with him without fighting. I'm not purposely doing that. He said he wants to be happy and me to be happy. But he doesn't care about my feelings he just say that.
I loved him a lot and now I don't love him like before. Why is he doing like this? Can you all give your ideas please. I'm ok with anything, I just want to understand this.
