Ultimately, not one person here believes anything but that he is in a loving, committed relationship with “her” and staying with you to maintain the family image. And why shouldn’t he? You are making it so easy for him to make a fool of you. Best friends don’t lie to each other about MAJOR parts of their lives, for years; loving spouses that are part of “something special” don’t have an affair partner…for years. I’m not sure what else there is for you on TAM. You are completely resistant to basic facts. Literally not one other person that knows your story agrees with your view of the situation. I’d bet my house that many other people know about their relationship. Neither of those 2 things I mentioned are opinions. They are facts. I’m curious as to your parents’ relationship, that you are so easily able to convince yourself that the truth is a lie.