if this is for real, and you can’t understand it by now, I can see why your husband has done what he’s done, which is horrible.
He has likely tried everything to make you understand that the connection and intimacy a typical man feels by having a sexual relationship with his wife is really important to him. It’s also important that the sexual relationship is something shared WITH him, not a treat given TO him.
I’m really sorry that if genuine, you truly are blind to what your husband has wanted to share with you but you’ve been unable to do.
Im also sorry that your marriage to this man is so completely fulfilling to you, but sadly, it was grossly unfulfilling to him. So he has wronged you by stepping outside the marriage and building a relationship with this other woman and not breaking things off with you.
You value highly some very important things in a marriage. But your idea of emotional intimacy and physical intimacy is different from his. I’ll bet your husband rightly thinks highly of you and thinks you’re a wonderful mother. You probably are. But as a lover, you are missing the mark.
Doesn’t he work with her in her business?
He texts her and writes her love notes, he has sex with her….
How many hours a day does she get with him vs you? There’s something missing in your description of the time spent with you vs her. Realize he’s SLEEPing with you in your bed. He’s AWAKE with her.
I’m going to stop posting on your thread. I feel like my message to you is only seen as hurtful. I just wanted you to see another perspective, so you could understand your husband better. What he’s done is wrong. But you can’t see that she’s giving him something you can’t.