Great advice. Thank you for taking the time. Will do!Just continue to love him and be the wife that he fell in love with which made him decide to marry you if you want to keep your husband. Everything else is hogwash. If you said hurtful things, maybe those are resonating with him.
Is there anyone at all that you treated worse than him during this period of your life? Whether or not you have your reasons (excuses) why you were so rude / lashing out, it is not acceptable to treat a spouse worse than all others... it should be the opposite of that.I was miserable after the pandemic hit. I lashed out a lot, I was rude, in return, he became rude. It’s s vicious cycle. We both started doing our own thing instead of things with each other. Then a massive argument over the 4th of July and he lost all will at intamacy after that.
I will just chime in here to say a husband who would declare and successfully implement a "no intimacy" policy with his wife for 6 DAYS, let alone 6 months would be extraordinarily unusual. And I don't care how much weight she gained. Unless he is badly depressed ( which he may be ), or incapable in the bedroom ( which a lot of alcohol consumption could cause ), or ill some other way, I will say he is draining his tank somehow. And him rejecting your initiating suggests he highly resents you for some reason, and expressing his anger by refusing intimacy with you.Will he share pass word? If not that’s not a good sign. Also no sex for 6 months? Shady as hell. Sounds like he’s working on himself for someone else
Seriously... work on yourself. When you've achieved your goal (weigh loss, better mental health, etc.) your husband might be more inclined to give the marriage another go... if not, you will be in a wonderful shape for the man that really wants to be with you.Hahahah indeed … thanks 😊
Have you apologized for what YOU said? Not "some things that were said". What were the things YOU said?He is being stubborn because he feels hurt by some things that
wereI said during s really bad fight.
So this is about a month ago. Not that long if you attacked him in areas where he is vulnerable. Like his abilities in the bedroom or the size of his unit. Common when people know all of one another flaws and can "go for the jugular". Maybe he attacked you regarding your flaws so you responded in kind. Bad idea.Then a massive argument over the 4th of July and he lost all will at intamacy after that.
What do you mean by this question? Are you considering cheating on him? Of course if you aren't considering that, you will have to wait for him to come around as long as it takes. The question is like asking "how long is a string".I’m a very sexual being so how long do I sit around and wait for him to come around lol.
Is that a real thing? Emotional intimacy? Sometimes, my marriage lacks sex (for weeks) and my husband says that it's because he is fully satisfied with our emotional and physical intimacy in the sense of the fact that we spend a lot of time together at night after work (sitting on the floor in front of the couch watching his shows.. we sit together. pretty much him on top of me. We are always holding hands in the car. Or each others legs. Or something). He always tells me that he is perfectly satisfied with this. But then he watches porn in the morning. I satisfy him emotionally but he finds his sexual desires elsewhere which is what my head tells me.No intimacy? Like emotional or physical?
Not your thing as in you don't need sex?A male perspective in a somewhat similar situation; I had always pursued (intimacy) up until about 4 years ago (she never initiated). Then I gave up and we coasted along (did not seem to bother her); other things kept me ok. Then I lost my dog and dad, and then mom moved a long ways away in a relatively short period of time. I became very dissatisfied with my life and have lost all desire for intimacy with my wife. She has really tried to bring things back, but I am just not feeling it. There was no infidelity, physical or emotional. We are singed up for marriage counseling, but I am skeptical. We have both been taking better care of ourselves. This may sound crazy, but I believe we are both very good people, moral, responsible, etc. We don't argue; that is just not my thing. I hope things work out for you, one way or another, but the void of intimacy can leave deep scars.
I will be astounded if she didn't attack him regarding his sexual prowess or attributes because he has "given up" on intimacy, not some other aspect of marriage like finances or keeping the yard in shape. OP has a tough row to hoe coming back from that.Yea, I think the nature of what was said to him will help guide the advice.
It is hard to tell if he is just being immature / shallow, or if she really hurt him and he lost his feelings for her due to that.