Hello, I need a little advice. I've been married for 11 years now, we are generally happy even though we have had our share of problems. I'm a nurse by trade and my husband is self employed and makes good money. We have two children and my oldest being 8 and I've basically been a stay at home Mom since he was born, working casual for the last 3 years. I feel blessed that I could be home with my kids but now feel like its time to go back to work. I don't however get support when I bring this up to my husband. For 8 years I've been a good mother and wife and rarely ask for anything. My husband feels that because I don't have to work for financial reasons then why should I. I think its because he doesn't want to be inconvienced. I work shift work and completely go around his schedule, so our children are always cared for. I feel like I'm an educated woman with something to offer, and that I have needs to fill other than being a mother and wife. I can't seem to make him understand that and I feel that the support only goes one way. If I say this he says ok you go work full time and I will stay home. He knows that working full time I wouldn't be able to support our bills on our own. So everytime I take a shift its a battle. I don't know what to do, Ive tried rationalizing with him. Am I wrong? I feel like he's being selfish and wants me under his thumb. I support him even when I know he's wrong, I do love him but I want more and I think I deserve the same support in return!
