hi
im new here and i came for some help...thank you for reading.
im 26 and my husband is 33.we are Asian.we have been married for 2+ years and we have been in a relationship for 6 years.i love him so much and it was all good till august.we had fights, may be once a month but we always became OK in 2-3 days.
we had a fight on august over a housework problem and i said something bad to him asking why he didn't do it.he wanted to leave me and go away.after much talk he stayed.
but he says he doesn't love me anymore and he wants a divorce. i said please let's work on this maybe you ll love me again after some time.so he agreed to it and we are waiting to see if he can forgive me and love me again.
he says its not that fight alone which made him not love me.he says all the past fights were on his mind.and they all added up and kept boiling in his mind while i was thinking everything is OK.
i guess we didn't know how to solve fights without one of us keeping a score card.
when he said he doesn't love me it was a total shock for me.i thought when he said "i love you" that was forever.right now i feel rejected unattractive and not deserving love.im in pain and its like the earth had been pulled out from under my feet and im falling.it hurts so much.
he has done some bad things but i ve never said i don't love him.when i said that he says those things were different mistakes each time and he corrected his mistakes after one time but i kept doing the same thing.his main complaint is i fight with him when he is going to work/at work. i admit that
im an emotional person and i cant wait to solve when there is a problem.so im going to be careful about that from now on.
i just want his love back... now when i come home from work and try to talk, he reads or uses the phone.he doesn't want to spend time with me and is on his computer even when im home.(that's 3 hours of awake time everyday)i don't have a computer. he does not touch kiss or hug me. our intimate life was great.we don't have money problems.this was so out of the blue that i cant sleep at night and i spend hours thinking what went wrong and crying.
i want some help. any advice on what to do in this situation will be great.im lost.i just want to move past this,solve it and be a loving and happy couple again.i want his love back that's the most important thing i had..but i don't know what will happen....
thank you
ps:he will be away for 3 days so i would only be able to log in again after 3 days..
im new here and i came for some help...thank you for reading.
im 26 and my husband is 33.we are Asian.we have been married for 2+ years and we have been in a relationship for 6 years.i love him so much and it was all good till august.we had fights, may be once a month but we always became OK in 2-3 days.
we had a fight on august over a housework problem and i said something bad to him asking why he didn't do it.he wanted to leave me and go away.after much talk he stayed.
but he says he doesn't love me anymore and he wants a divorce. i said please let's work on this maybe you ll love me again after some time.so he agreed to it and we are waiting to see if he can forgive me and love me again.
he says its not that fight alone which made him not love me.he says all the past fights were on his mind.and they all added up and kept boiling in his mind while i was thinking everything is OK.
i guess we didn't know how to solve fights without one of us keeping a score card.
when he said he doesn't love me it was a total shock for me.i thought when he said "i love you" that was forever.right now i feel rejected unattractive and not deserving love.im in pain and its like the earth had been pulled out from under my feet and im falling.it hurts so much.
he has done some bad things but i ve never said i don't love him.when i said that he says those things were different mistakes each time and he corrected his mistakes after one time but i kept doing the same thing.his main complaint is i fight with him when he is going to work/at work. i admit that
im an emotional person and i cant wait to solve when there is a problem.so im going to be careful about that from now on.
i just want his love back... now when i come home from work and try to talk, he reads or uses the phone.he doesn't want to spend time with me and is on his computer even when im home.(that's 3 hours of awake time everyday)i don't have a computer. he does not touch kiss or hug me. our intimate life was great.we don't have money problems.this was so out of the blue that i cant sleep at night and i spend hours thinking what went wrong and crying.
i want some help. any advice on what to do in this situation will be great.im lost.i just want to move past this,solve it and be a loving and happy couple again.i want his love back that's the most important thing i had..but i don't know what will happen....
thank you
ps:he will be away for 3 days so i would only be able to log in again after 3 days..