What's with the mask? Is this a covid type mask or halloween type mask or,,,?
Some will. I'll spend 1-2 hours on my wife and sometimes it leads to more but often it doesn't. That doesn't mean your husband will though. He's hiding whatever his issues are and you will have issues until that stops and the issues are dealt with.Do people really do this? I mean it does seem like a good option but will a man really take the time to do all that when he isn’t interested in sex?
STOP considering those "options". They shouldn't even be options.should I mention that I’m considering other options such as an affair or just talking to a man on the phone as I masterbate?
The way I view divorce is that it is OK if you are young and have no children and you are confident you can get a young man with no children. Els you end up with a large extended family of both adults and kids each having their own agenda on you. If I were to marry a man who has two children by his ex and I current have two by my would then be ex, that means 5 adults to interact with when there was only one before and who knows how many more kids when there was only 2 before. NO. If I divorce due to any issue at all, I would not go into another relationship.Well the easy one to make stick is divorce. If this doesn’t change then the relationship is over. One way or the other that will fix things.
You can also suggest an open relationship I guess but I would never do that myself. I don’t want to be with multiple partners and I don’t want to outsource sex when my wife is physically capable.
I Agree if everything else in your marriage is what you’ve always wanted in a marriage with the exception of sex frequency and ”adventure” in the bedroom. A talk about you bringing someone in to satisfy you may just light the fuse that blows up your life.Other than your sex life are y’all happy? If you are prepare to destroy that by suggesting affairs and/or phone sex with someone else. Just my 2 cents.
I have read many books and indeed a lot boils down to self confidence. In particular in the ability to confidently talk about your desires as well as express them physically.VERY helpful!! First, I think u are right about his insecurities now without drinking. He often wants me to wear a mask which was never done before. Ok, one sided experiences- uugghh this seems awkward. So I just explain that to him and then ask him to just pleasure me when he doesn’t feel like sex? Do people really do this? I mean it does seem like a good option but will a man really take the time to do all that when he isn’t interested in sex?
I am pretty easy to please. That’s part of the problem. I guess because we’ve been together so long he can make me orgasim in about 3-5 minutes. I don’t want that! I want foreplay and touching for at about 10-15 minutes before the orgasim. How do I get that?
PS: Therapists often assign couples exercises to gain skills and confidence via nonsexual intimacy such as a back rub. I think the progression goes like this:How do I get that?
If this is a blindfold, it means that he feels uncomfortable being seen. This would indicate that he feels ashamed of his sexuality and you may need to work on that.He often wants me to wear a mask which was never done before.
I 100% disagree. Covering her face takes away who she is so he can freely fantasize about whoever he wants to without distractions. It's a purely selfish move.If this is a blindfold, it means that he feels uncomfortable being seen. This would indicate that he feels ashamed of his sexuality and you may need to work on that.