[mark112]

O.k so my girlfriend has recently posted our story on here so i will give you the link so i don't need to write it out again.....

http://talkaboutmarriage.com/coping-infidelity/62217-i-cheated-i-dont-know-why.html

What she didn't mention was the fact that i have a friend in the police and have managed to get hold of CCTV of the incident, gratefully to my friend as he had to do this illegally. Anyway her story checks out, she hasn't seen the video but everything she told me from day one turns out to be true, there are a couple of things that the video couldn't confirm but my own tests have confirmed them for me.

So another words everything she has said is true, i feel that we can recover from this but it still hurts badly, is there any advice you can offer that will speed up the heeling? its been around 6 weeks and things have started to feel better but the hurt is still there.

I appreciate that this is an odd one compared to the other stories on here for whom i feel badly for but any advice is welcomed.

 

[NewtoThisMarriageThing]

I saw her post and genuinely felt her remorse/regret but at the same time, I wonder what if the guy was attractive and not "small". .... only you know what you can deal with. And how it's going to affect you. Forgiveness is great but don't stick around blindly

 

[lionsguy22]

She did stop it pretty quick. Up to you, you have no kids so leaving her is comparatively easy.
I also give her credit for telling you right away. I also wonder if he was attractive and hung what would have happend.
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[mark112]

I saw her post and genuinely felt her remorse/regret but at the same time, I wonder what if the guy was attractive and not "small". .... only you know what you can deal with. And how it's going to affect you. Forgiveness is great but don't stick around blindly

On seeing the video, i would call this guy unattractive, when she first told me about him being small and not going in,i was suspicious, this is going to sound crude but i had her remove what she was wearing down below, i could clearly smell condom on her upper legs, i told her to spread her lips, i put my finger in and there was absolutely no smell of condom.

 

[Kasler]

You should leave her. Infidelity while dating? to continue to be with her is a huge risk.

Right now, if you were betting your money would be on leaving her and finding someone who wouldN'T cheat.

Cause if you two wind up getting married, and having 2.6 kids shes pretty much in your life for good. =/

Whereas now you can get out damage free.

 

[lionsguy22]

She did "pull her stuff down" aka pull down her pants and panties so he could enter her
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[mark112]

She did stop it pretty quick. Up to you, you have no kids so leaving her is comparatively easy.
I also give her credit for telling you right away. I also wonder if he was attractive and hung what would have happend.
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We have 2 kids, i asked her the same thing, she said it wasn't a choice to follow him as a person, in her drunken state it could have been me a neighbour or an overweight dwarf with warts and it wouldn't have made a difference. She doesn't drink generally, iv seen her drunk like that before and if i said go jump off a roof she would.

 

[SomedayDig]

LMAO...now...all of a sudden YOUR Shift key is broken. First post you did fine. Now this.

You spread her lips and put your finger in to see if you could smell condom?!!! Come on.

EDIT: You're even writing "iv" the same way "she" does.

 

[MrK]

i had her remove what she was wearing down below, i could clearly smell condom on her upper legs, i told her to spread her lips, i put my finger in and there was absolutely no smell of condom.

:scratchhead:

 

[mark112]

You should leave her. Infidelity while dating? to continue to be with her is a huge risk.

Right now, if you were betting your money would be on leaving her and finding someone who would cheat.

Cause if you two wind up getting married, and having 2.6 kids shes pretty much in your life for good. =/

Whereas now you can get out damage free.

We have 2 kids and i disagree with you as she really is not the type of person who would do this, i strongly bileave she made a drunken mistake. Also she has said unless she is with me she will never drink that much again and will never put herself in that kind of stupid situation ever again

 

[lionsguy22]

I wouldn't let the drunk thing be used as an excuse.

If you have a car accident sober it's an accident.
Have a car accident drunk- it's your fault you and you go to jail
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[mark112]

I wouldn't let the drunk thing be used as an excuse.

If you have a car accident sober it's an accident.
Have a car accident drunk- it's your fault you and you go to jail
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Absolutely, she doesn't really use it as an excuse, however i don't feel, being the kind of person she is, it would have happened sober, also if a taxi had been a minute sooner it wouldn't have happened either

 

[mark112]

LMAO...now...all of a sudden YOUR Shift key is broken. First post you did fine. Now this.

You spread her lips and put your finger in to see if you could smell condom?!!! Come on.

EDIT: You're even writing "iv" the same way "she" does.

??

 

[mark112]

:scratchhead:

I know but how else could i confirm this? I had to find out otherwise its a big difference

 

[lionsguy22]

Smelly condom!
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[Rob774]

Wow... i'm such a fool.

We are obviously getting played here folks. What guy checks his woman's legs and genitals after she admits an affair.
What is this... the 13th Century?

U have a police friend get the camera footage? On what cause, no crime was committed. Cops just can't walk in and demand the tapes.

Troll post!
Both of them!!!

 

[SomedayDig]

Wow... i'm such a fool.

We are obviously getting played here folks. What guy checks his woman's legs and genitals after she admits an affair.
What is this... the 13th Century?

Troll post!
Both of them!!!

Watching each of their profiles and seeing one logging in while the other one just posted and the syntax of the posts...

How can you say troll!?!! :rofl:

 

[mark112]

Wow... i'm such a fool.

We are obviously getting played here folks. What guy checks his woman's legs and genitals after she admits an affair.
What is this... the 13th Century?

Troll post!
Both of them!!!

How else could i confirm this? trust me its not something i wanted to do but i needed to be sure it didn't go in there

 

[mark112]

Watching each of their profiles and seeing one logging in while the other one just posted and the syntax of the posts...

How can you say troll!?!! :rofl:

O.k if you feel that way, please leave the thread

 

[SomedayDig]

Ok JB. Good luck.