I am new here, been reading a whole lot on this forum for some kind of understanding what is going on with my wife.
Here is my story, D-day was 9/18/2012, 1 day after my 3yr old sons b-day. My W called me at work ( i could tell something was wrong) to tell me that she had gone to court and filed D!! We had a 40min conversation to which she told me that she was done! She was completely drained from the last year and she was not happy. That day I was told to move out.Quick background of the last year. My W was pregnant with my youngest son, and trying to open a new bussiness, and caring for my oldest son then 2yrs old. I was working alot of OT to support the household and helping afterwork get the bussiness ready for grand opening. We were renting a house, moved into to my MIL house to save to buy a new house, that was on labor day. I was there only 2 weeks.You get the jist of the stress i was under, needless to say I cracked. I could not handle it, i got overwelmed and eventually got on some meds to deal w/ my anxiety and eventually drank more than usual for me (about 2-3 beers a night) i have since quit.
In the last month she has filed the paperwork, served me, and now in a few days we will be going to a court clininc to finish everything! All in a months time!! Crazy. I am 34 she is 30, we have 2 little boys 3 & 1.5. We have been together 6yrs married 5.5yrs. She has all the signs of a WAW. She is extremely cold and negative when it comes to the marriage. She even goes as far as to say that this is going to be better for the boys.
Since D-day, I did not do the typicall song and dance (beg,plead, cry, etc.) Instead i just agreed with her and said that we had some issues but i did not think that this was the answer. I have read 6 books, all the greats listed in this forum already. Since D-day we have contact only through text, basically having to do w/ our boys. We have even figured out all our divorce split over text. I have called 3 times, only because texting would take forever. I slipped a few times in the begining sending flowers, cards, and gifts the the shop, she of course did not even acknowledge recieving them. She did tell me to stop sending them to the shop tho.
I have been trying to employ the 180 (went back to gym, therapy 6X's, and chruch), i feel that i have committed to it at least 85% of the time. At this point i think i need to give her a taste of what it will be like w/o me there.
I am a little lost, dont know how long her fog is going to last or even she will come out of it. Any body have suggestions or any success?
Here is my story, D-day was 9/18/2012, 1 day after my 3yr old sons b-day. My W called me at work ( i could tell something was wrong) to tell me that she had gone to court and filed D!! We had a 40min conversation to which she told me that she was done! She was completely drained from the last year and she was not happy. That day I was told to move out.Quick background of the last year. My W was pregnant with my youngest son, and trying to open a new bussiness, and caring for my oldest son then 2yrs old. I was working alot of OT to support the household and helping afterwork get the bussiness ready for grand opening. We were renting a house, moved into to my MIL house to save to buy a new house, that was on labor day. I was there only 2 weeks.You get the jist of the stress i was under, needless to say I cracked. I could not handle it, i got overwelmed and eventually got on some meds to deal w/ my anxiety and eventually drank more than usual for me (about 2-3 beers a night) i have since quit.
In the last month she has filed the paperwork, served me, and now in a few days we will be going to a court clininc to finish everything! All in a months time!! Crazy. I am 34 she is 30, we have 2 little boys 3 & 1.5. We have been together 6yrs married 5.5yrs. She has all the signs of a WAW. She is extremely cold and negative when it comes to the marriage. She even goes as far as to say that this is going to be better for the boys.
Since D-day, I did not do the typicall song and dance (beg,plead, cry, etc.) Instead i just agreed with her and said that we had some issues but i did not think that this was the answer. I have read 6 books, all the greats listed in this forum already. Since D-day we have contact only through text, basically having to do w/ our boys. We have even figured out all our divorce split over text. I have called 3 times, only because texting would take forever. I slipped a few times in the begining sending flowers, cards, and gifts the the shop, she of course did not even acknowledge recieving them. She did tell me to stop sending them to the shop tho.
I have been trying to employ the 180 (went back to gym, therapy 6X's, and chruch), i feel that i have committed to it at least 85% of the time. At this point i think i need to give her a taste of what it will be like w/o me there.
I am a little lost, dont know how long her fog is going to last or even she will come out of it. Any body have suggestions or any success?
