My boyfriend and I have been dating for five months, we're on our last year of college just in different states so it's basically a LDR for now. We only see each other during breaks and while we're away we skype. We've had a good relationship so far, we get along and have the same goals in life, the only problem is his mom. I don't know why she doesn't like me, she met me already and she was really nice but she complains about me when I'm not around,
I know this because last week my boyfriend was home for thanksgiving, we were playing some online games the day after thanksgiving (since we hadn't talked at all that week) and we had the videocall at the same time. I saw his mom just walking around where he was until she said "okay, we need to talk". Since I wasn't expecting her to explode with him, I just left the videocall up and kept playing, until I heard my name... She told my boyfriend that he was just wasting his life with me and that because of me he was pulling away from everything and everyone. She even started questioning my intentions with him and called me a gold digger. Then she got mad at him because he decided to spend Christmas with me and my family this year, she told him that he was being very rude and that he's supposed to be there with her.
1.- He's not pulling away from anything or anyone, we're both busy so we do what we have to do during the day and only skype at night.
2.- I've never given her reasons to think I'm a gold digger. When we go out we split the money and it was actually my idea because he always wanted to pay but I didn't like it.
3.- We already changed the date of the trip once because his mom started crying when she knew that he'd come to see me. She seemed to be satisfied with the changes but only for a few days, now she wants him to cancel and stay with her.
My boyfriend apologized with me for not telling me that his mom didn't like me, he says it was to protect me. Luckily he's always given me my place, he already told his mom that he's not going to cancel the trip, that he's going to stay with me because he really loves me and says that he tries to ignore his mom's drama because he thinks that she's just having a hard time letting go. Then he told me that since we started dating she’s been asking him to join different clubs because she wants him to 'be with new people' and one time she asked the dad to talk with my boyfriend about how he was with a lot of girls when he was young. He also told me that the day he changed his relationship status on Facebook, she called him and started yelling at him.
Honestly she’s making me very angry and not only because she tries to put me down but because she’s always making my boyfriend feel bad and making him choose. What can I do? I don’t want to tell my boyfriend that his mom is pissing me off, I think that would only make him feel worse so I’ve been trying to be understanding and comforting but she’s getting me on my nerves! Advice?
I know this because last week my boyfriend was home for thanksgiving, we were playing some online games the day after thanksgiving (since we hadn't talked at all that week) and we had the videocall at the same time. I saw his mom just walking around where he was until she said "okay, we need to talk". Since I wasn't expecting her to explode with him, I just left the videocall up and kept playing, until I heard my name... She told my boyfriend that he was just wasting his life with me and that because of me he was pulling away from everything and everyone. She even started questioning my intentions with him and called me a gold digger. Then she got mad at him because he decided to spend Christmas with me and my family this year, she told him that he was being very rude and that he's supposed to be there with her.
1.- He's not pulling away from anything or anyone, we're both busy so we do what we have to do during the day and only skype at night.
2.- I've never given her reasons to think I'm a gold digger. When we go out we split the money and it was actually my idea because he always wanted to pay but I didn't like it.
3.- We already changed the date of the trip once because his mom started crying when she knew that he'd come to see me. She seemed to be satisfied with the changes but only for a few days, now she wants him to cancel and stay with her.
My boyfriend apologized with me for not telling me that his mom didn't like me, he says it was to protect me. Luckily he's always given me my place, he already told his mom that he's not going to cancel the trip, that he's going to stay with me because he really loves me and says that he tries to ignore his mom's drama because he thinks that she's just having a hard time letting go. Then he told me that since we started dating she’s been asking him to join different clubs because she wants him to 'be with new people' and one time she asked the dad to talk with my boyfriend about how he was with a lot of girls when he was young. He also told me that the day he changed his relationship status on Facebook, she called him and started yelling at him.
Honestly she’s making me very angry and not only because she tries to put me down but because she’s always making my boyfriend feel bad and making him choose. What can I do? I don’t want to tell my boyfriend that his mom is pissing me off, I think that would only make him feel worse so I’ve been trying to be understanding and comforting but she’s getting me on my nerves! Advice?