I too purchased mspy and it's horrible. I'd go with mobilestealth instead.
MSPY help
i have installed MSPY on my wifes phone with her knowledge. Most of the features work except the social media apps such as facebook messanger, instagram, snap, whatsap etc. i can see the activity in the keylogger, her texts, emails, apps, clock and alarms, calls etc but my expectation was i would see the actual messages in the various social media folders such as messanger. any help with this would be appreciated.
both android phones.
both android phones.
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thank you!I too purchased mspy and it's horrible. I'd go with mobilestealth instead.
You sure she doesn't already have a cash burner phone?
I'd like to think the above was all humourous, kind of meant to be, but who would suffer through all the spyware and monitoring to enforce honesty. 
Highly unlikely.Forgive me for asking, is there a chance this is an MSPY marketing strategy? Seems the topic is the software and spreading the MSPY title around.....with no backstory beyond a generic "there is a situation".
You are grasping but IMO you are grasping at the wrong things. Spyware & a polygraph won't give you peace of mind. You do need transparency so there is something positive that your wife, who betrayed you, is willing to give you those things. That tells me she is willing to work to fix the marriage. However, you don't fix it with gadgets. You fix it through marriage counseling. There is a ton or soul bearing, heart wrenching, emotional work that the two of you are going to need to do if there is a way to find your way back to each other after this "devastating information".i have newly discovered devastating information about my wifes infidelity. i was honest and introspective in my post above that i'm am looking for some control around this discovery in my life. i am grasping i suppose.
Good luck.
I'm guessing that the wayward wife might have suggested monitoring devices on her phones and communications devices.
she didI'm guessing that the wayward wife might have suggested monitoring devices on her phones and communications devices.
Her offering cuts both ways. She could be genuinely offering transparency but she could also be doing this because she has a burner phone & knows the device you are monitoring will be "clean".
Would seem what he has implied thus far.I'm guessing that the wayward wife might have suggested monitoring devices on her phones and communications devices.
i'm not sure. but how at this point, could i be?You sure she doesn't already have a cash burner phone?
i'm not sure. but how at this point, could i be?
You can't & that's why polygraphs & spywear aren't the answer.
They can be part of the answer.You can't & that's why polygraphs & spywear aren't the answer.
i know. not that it matters but i've torn everyting apart looking, she has no permanent desk at work, and have asked her a million times with always a no. she spends about 4 minutes a day in her car. this devastating confession seems different to me than the now somewhat lame one on 9/25/21. i have a wife that is clearly reeling from her behavior and says shes done lying etc but i've read that a million times as well. she started IC today and took all of the steps on her own and that is different behavior.Her offering cuts both ways. She could be genuinely offering transparency but she could also be doing this because she has a burner phone & knows the device you are monitoring will be "clean".
they are part of the answer for me, definately.They can be part of the answer.
Curious, is the reason you haven’t shared the details of your situation because you’re prioritizing getting other steps and actions in place (which is understandable), or because you have an idea of what we are going to tell you and it’s not what you want to hear?
So almost 2 years ago you found out something bad but forgave her. You recently found out something worse.this devastating confession seems different to me than the now somewhat lame one on 9/25/21.
Was the worse thing a new behavior that happened recently or was it a bad / worse thing that happened back then but you just found out about it now? If the behavior was recent, that might be her 2nd bite at the apple making it time to throw in the towel. If it was long ago behavior that you just learned about -- making the wound fresh because you just learned about it -- I would encourage you to evaluate her recent behaviors. Under those circumstances her offer for more oversight by you could be genuine.
Glad you are in IC but IMO, unless MC is part of the reconciliation / forgiveness plan, all the devices in the world won't help.
its a combination of both. i need to info grab, it's what i do. i've been reading this forum since 9/25/21 so yeah, i have a pretty good idea of what i'll be told.Curious, is the reason you haven’t shared the details of your situation because you’re prioritizing getting other steps and actions in place (which is understandable), or because you have an idea of what we are going to tell you and it’s not what you want to hear?
for reasons i'm not ready to talk about, i had forgiven her for what i thought was a 3 month EA. i had no relationships outside my marriage. i was never not suspicious of more due to a few things that had my gut screaming. we talked about it regularly. she just lied since 9/25/21. now i know why. i was on to her. she got scared, very scared.So almost 2 years ago you found out something bad but forgave her. You recently found out something worse.
Was the worse thing a new behavior that happened recently or was it a bad / worse thing that happened back then but you just found out about it now? If the behavior was recent, that might be her 2nd bite at the apple making it time to throw in the towel. If it was long ago behavior that you just learned about -- making the wound fresh because you just learned about it -- I would encourage you to evaluate her recent behaviors. Under those circumstances her offer for more oversight by you could be genuine.
Glad you are in IC but IMO, unless MC is part of the reconciliation / forgiveness plan, all the devices in the world won't help.
since 9/25/21 her behavior toward me and our marriage was about a 180 from her prior (i am not talking about her infidelity here) behavior. compassion, understanding, willingness, patience, much nicer was all evident. we got along and did tons of things together. i bagged her and she changed, consistently. she's hard headed so it didn't come immediately, but it did. she added family 360 tracking. i never really insisted on the phone monitoring because for the entire time she stopped all phone time, she left it out all the time i could check. i've seen zero evidence or real suspicion of a 2nd phone. she has a 4 minute commute and we spent just about the entire time being together. intimacy improved, we were trying after many years.
the phyisical infidelity was not the same person as the EA. i've gotten a mostly detailed timeline and she is committed to a poly to support she hadn't been with anyone since 2019, long before covid. she has a terrible memory for any detail so thats why it's mostly detailed.
married 22 years. kids out of the house but remain incredibly close to us.
we've done MC but never in a way the could possibly have helped us. We are getting some immediate individual help now. I may consider MC in the future.
my statement that the pa was not the same person as the ea is not quite right. i had suspcions of another man for the entire time (my gut) and as it turns out he was one of the men she was with.for reasons i'm not ready to talk about, i had forgiven her for what i thought was a 3 month EA. i had no relationships outside my marriage. i was never not suspicious of more due to a few things that had my gut screaming. we talked about it regularly. she just lied since 9/25/21. now i know why. i was on to her. she got scared, very scared.
since 9/25/21 her behavior toward me and our marriage was about a 180 from her prior (i am not talking about her infidelity here) behavior. compassion, understanding, willingness, patience, much nicer was all evident. we got along and did tons of things together. i bagged her and she changed, consistently. she's hard headed so it didn't come immediately, but it did. she added family 360 tracking. i never really insisted on the phone monitoring because for the entire time she stopped all phone time, she left it out all the time i could check. i've seen zero evidence or real suspicion of a 2nd phone. she has a 4 minute commute and we spent just about the entire time being together. intimacy improved, we were trying after many years.
the phyisical infidelity was not the same person as the EA. i've gotten a mostly detailed timeline and she is committed to a poly to support she hadn't been with anyone since 2019, long before covid. she has a terrible memory for any detail so thats why it's mostly detailed.
married 22 years. kids out of the house but remain incredibly close to us.
we've done MC but never in a way the could possibly have helped us. We are getting some immediate individual help now. I may consider MC in the future.
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