OK Newbie here and I was one of those guys that thought it would never happen to them..
My wife and I have been married 11 years, together for 17. We were high school sweethearts, I am now 32 and have four awesome kids. Now for the long story..
My SAHM wife has been battling depression since after our first child was born, and this past summer she seemed to hit rock bottom. In the beginning of Aug. She told me she was so miserable that she wanted to kill herself, so we decided that she needed to check herself into a clinic for help. After she returned from the clinic with A Manic-Depressive diagnosis, I felt almost relieved that we finally figured out what was going on with her mental health and was getting the help she needed.
A mutual friend of ours was in the process of leaving his spouse, so we were helping him out and hanging out with him (Actually all 4 of us went out together at one point). He and my wife started hanging out on the weekends together and I started to get concerned after she came home from he bar he works at 3am.. Told her I didnt like it and she told me that he was just one of our good friends.. I started noticing that she was pulling away from me and felt a lot of tension between us.
The beginning of Oct she called me while I was driving home from an out of town job (First one I've had in years) and told me over the phone that she wanted to leave me. I was in total shock and raced home to talk to her. I offered to go to counseling with her, but the only two reasons she gave me was that I wasnt there for her emotionally, and she doesn't love me the way I need to be loved.. I was scheduled to be out of town 3 days a week for the next 4 weeks, and I knew that our friend was hanging out here while I was gone, and when I got home she would go out with him..
By Halloween I was done going out of town and once again asked her about counseling which she said she didnt know if she wanted to. I finally accused her of an EA to which she admitted to, and we decided to split up after the weekend so we could tell the kids. Sat I found out that It was more than an EA and I was crushed. It was the worst thing I've ever felt. She left me and the kids on Sun eve. And supposedly (Was a lie) went to go stay with her grandma. Mon She told me there has been 2 other guys (One I kinda knew about - didnt think they were sleeping together) over the past 1 1/2 years. On Friday I found out she moved in with our "Friend" and never went to grandmas.
3 weeks after she moved out They have already rented a house, and thinks shes going to take the kids there.. I havn't even filed yet because I cant bring myself to do it. She hasn't fully moved into the new house yet, she is staying with another GOOD friend of ours (Who is very concerned about this situation) when she has the kids.
I feel like i'm not ready to give up, I see her almost every day because of the kids, and the past two weeks has been amazing hanging out with her. I know she is in a "fog" and wont see things clearly, but shes destroying her kids and me by moving so fast with this guy...
I'm sure I will add more later
TLDR: married 11 years, 4 kids, wife cheated, 3 guys in 1 1/2 years, directly rented a house with current guy, I'm worried about her..
My wife and I have been married 11 years, together for 17. We were high school sweethearts, I am now 32 and have four awesome kids. Now for the long story..
My SAHM wife has been battling depression since after our first child was born, and this past summer she seemed to hit rock bottom. In the beginning of Aug. She told me she was so miserable that she wanted to kill herself, so we decided that she needed to check herself into a clinic for help. After she returned from the clinic with A Manic-Depressive diagnosis, I felt almost relieved that we finally figured out what was going on with her mental health and was getting the help she needed.
A mutual friend of ours was in the process of leaving his spouse, so we were helping him out and hanging out with him (Actually all 4 of us went out together at one point). He and my wife started hanging out on the weekends together and I started to get concerned after she came home from he bar he works at 3am.. Told her I didnt like it and she told me that he was just one of our good friends.. I started noticing that she was pulling away from me and felt a lot of tension between us.
The beginning of Oct she called me while I was driving home from an out of town job (First one I've had in years) and told me over the phone that she wanted to leave me. I was in total shock and raced home to talk to her. I offered to go to counseling with her, but the only two reasons she gave me was that I wasnt there for her emotionally, and she doesn't love me the way I need to be loved.. I was scheduled to be out of town 3 days a week for the next 4 weeks, and I knew that our friend was hanging out here while I was gone, and when I got home she would go out with him..
By Halloween I was done going out of town and once again asked her about counseling which she said she didnt know if she wanted to. I finally accused her of an EA to which she admitted to, and we decided to split up after the weekend so we could tell the kids. Sat I found out that It was more than an EA and I was crushed. It was the worst thing I've ever felt. She left me and the kids on Sun eve. And supposedly (Was a lie) went to go stay with her grandma. Mon She told me there has been 2 other guys (One I kinda knew about - didnt think they were sleeping together) over the past 1 1/2 years. On Friday I found out she moved in with our "Friend" and never went to grandmas.
3 weeks after she moved out They have already rented a house, and thinks shes going to take the kids there.. I havn't even filed yet because I cant bring myself to do it. She hasn't fully moved into the new house yet, she is staying with another GOOD friend of ours (Who is very concerned about this situation) when she has the kids.
I feel like i'm not ready to give up, I see her almost every day because of the kids, and the past two weeks has been amazing hanging out with her. I know she is in a "fog" and wont see things clearly, but shes destroying her kids and me by moving so fast with this guy...
I'm sure I will add more later
TLDR: married 11 years, 4 kids, wife cheated, 3 guys in 1 1/2 years, directly rented a house with current guy, I'm worried about her..