Title says it all. Less then 2 months ago, my wife had asked me to considering moving to the west coast for her happiness and depression. I finally caved and agreed, reluctantly, as I have no desire to live away from our home. We have 2 school age children who both seemed excited of the prospects of living near the ocean. When we discussed this move the idea was it would be temporary. I was able to get my boss to allow remote work for the time being. We still keep a family home in the Midwest.
fast forward 6 weeks from the date we moved and I’m told she is no longer happy and that she wants a divorce. Now I’m stuck in a city I hate, with no friends or family. Its Honestly crushing. Now comes the kicker…. Because I willingly moved my children here and enrolled them into school. at First glance from a conversation with a lawyer friend I may have screwed myself by doing so. I want nothing more then to take the kids and go back home. however she is not on board with that. She wants them to stay here with her. Both kids enjoy it here.but 1 would likely want to go back if given the option.
the idea of having to live out here on my own is unbearable. High cost makes it nearly impossible. I’ll be the one who’s moving out and highly doubt I can live anywhere near my children. I have no friends or family. It destroys me.
She tries to say how it’s my decision where I live. Do I go back home to our house? Do I find some dump apartment 30 minutes away(if I’m lucky) that I can hardly afford. But it’s not my choice I have no real options. I’m worried living here under these conditions is going to mentally destroy me. But so will being a parent who sees them on the weekends or being a summer dad….
just need some advice. Maybe someone’s been through something like this.
fast forward 6 weeks from the date we moved and I’m told she is no longer happy and that she wants a divorce. Now I’m stuck in a city I hate, with no friends or family. Its Honestly crushing. Now comes the kicker…. Because I willingly moved my children here and enrolled them into school. at First glance from a conversation with a lawyer friend I may have screwed myself by doing so. I want nothing more then to take the kids and go back home. however she is not on board with that. She wants them to stay here with her. Both kids enjoy it here.but 1 would likely want to go back if given the option.
the idea of having to live out here on my own is unbearable. High cost makes it nearly impossible. I’ll be the one who’s moving out and highly doubt I can live anywhere near my children. I have no friends or family. It destroys me.
She tries to say how it’s my decision where I live. Do I go back home to our house? Do I find some dump apartment 30 minutes away(if I’m lucky) that I can hardly afford. But it’s not my choice I have no real options. I’m worried living here under these conditions is going to mentally destroy me. But so will being a parent who sees them on the weekends or being a summer dad….
just need some advice. Maybe someone’s been through something like this.