This doesn't sound like a marriage, it sounds like a war zone. Sure, couples argue. But what you are experiencing - and participating in - is beyond the pale. People who love each other sometimes say things they regret. But what you are describing is downright nasty and violent.A huge problem is that the more often we started fighting, the more severe we started fighting … It's gotten to the point where police have been called because I had felt we had lost control of the situation. I try to leave to cool off, and she has blocked the car in and caused damage to the vehicle to keep me from leaving. Things have been thrown, damage to the house has been caused, by both of us. She continues to shame me for feeling like the police needed to be called but I stand by the decision to do so. I've never dealt with anything like this in my life.
Nope. Not normal. Not even close. I generally suggest separation over divorce, but it sounds like she has black-and-white thinking when it comes to that. I'd just divorce her, move on, and enjoy living quietly alone.