My STBXH is very much a mommas boy. He was the baby of her two children. He wanted this divorce and currently is staying in our house with all of our items. I went to the house to collect some personal items to find that he has blocked the driveway with our car for fear of me bringing in a truck and "robbing him blind". I'm getting used to this behavior as it has been the case since we first separated 2 months ago. I parked in the street and made my way inside the house to find him very irritated that I'm there. At 37 years old the first thing he did was call MOMMY who of course immediately came to his rescue. What kills me the most is he has put such a negative image of me in his mothers/family's heads. To her I have been the most evil negative "thief" of a wife who was unable to take care of her baby's needs. I have been tempted to email her to let her know my side of what is going on and to let her know what is REALLY going on with her son. My STBXH has a history of very heavy drug abuse and gay tendencies. There was an issue when he was a child to where they did find out about his tendencies but to them it all stopped at that moment. Little do they know he continued his gay tendencies through his twenties and early thirties even going so far as to answer Craig List ads to meet up with random men hes never met. SCARY!!! He came out and told me all of this 2 1/2 years into our marriage and said he still has urges but he is not gay. He claims it is 100% physical and no emotion what so ever. He does claim he has NOT done this since he and i started dating/ got married. But the day before we separated i was on our computer and found a lot of gay porn. He has NEVER shared this with his family. I know it should be up to him to tell them but he is never going to find peace or happiness until he figures out who he is and what he wants. He refuses to listen to me when i say maybe you should discuss this with a therapist. He accused me of mental cruelty and insisted that im trying to convince him that he is crazy. He is quite the spoiled brat when he doesn't get his way and I'm then accused of not trusting him, loving him, or being there for his needs. To me, i was in a no win situation. I did everything i could and over the years actually believed i was at fault for his misery. The more time I spend away the more I realize that i am not the reason. Only he can create his own happiness and he depends way too much on others to create it for him and blames others for all of his problems. He refuses to see that he has any deeper internal issues. To him "I" am the problem so that is why I am being tossed to the side. I know I need out of this toxic relationship and this truly is a blessing in disguise but i do still love my husband and do want him to be happy no matter what happens. His family can guide him there where as I could not. Do i explain this to them?