I think what happened is very common within relationships. What you saw was her hoping and hanging on...and then when you didn't respond to her, when you showed you were willing to end things with her while you saw she was broken hearted and wanting you to love her, the doors in her heart closed off to you. It doesn't mean anything was fake at all. I'm sure she is just as hurt by the loss of your relationship as you are!Curious question, because up until the day of the breakup of my relationship, she was in tears non-stop, wanted hugs, pinned herself against me. She kept delaying what she wanted so I just helped her carry her stuff out the door and drove her home. She took her time leaving the car and was in tears. I offered her solutions but she would have none of it so ok.
After she left though, and I swung around, realising what I had actually lost, she had already changed. The tears were gone, face was different, hands, voice and tone cold as ice. Even a smile and smirk. That's when I realised she was gone. But looking back it sure makes me wonder though...
Has anyone else encountered this switch? When someone can do that, does this mean everything was fake, the entire relationship? I'm questioning everything now, how real was everything really? In fact, I may dig up everything just to chuck it if that's the case and don't want to remember how I was blindsided.
What stands out to me is that the way she acted when she gave up (detached, uncaring, cold as ice) is the way you acted towards her BEFORE she gave up, even during your relationship when you guys were fighting...does that mean all your feelings of love that you showed her, or your feelings for her now, are fake? No, of course not.
It sounds like at the end, she became YOU. She accepted that you were never going to change (after you told her several times you wouldn't), and realized she had to harden her heart in order to let you go. You would harden your heart during your relationship, even though you loved her...she had to harden hers at the end, even though she loves you.
Her feelings and love for you were and are as real as yours were and are.