[Archon]

Dk, how old are you? It sounds like you're both young. I was a soldier and I got married at 22, not having any clue what I was really doing. How long were you dating? Did you honestly feel his love for you as you were getting married? Did you really want to get married or were you just in love with the idea of it? What was his behavior before you left? What kinds of ads was he posting on the internet, for sex?

It honestly doesn't look like your marriage is based on a strong foundation of love, honesty and open feelings. Is he going to Germany to be stationed there or train? If he's being stationed there, you absolutely can move with him, so it sounds like he doesn't want you to be with him.

Sorry for all the questions, but a better picture would allow us to help you better, and to give yourself a better picture of everything.

In regards to your mirror post:

I don't know what to do!!! He says he is not using me and the craigslist thing was a joke between him and his bestfriend I have never met who lives in Iowa. Our sex life is down the drain too. He always says it would be hot if we watched porn together. I'm not gonna lie, I tried to once but, the whole time he was just like, "she's hot, She has a nice ass, damn look at those tits!" Like, really! When does he ever compliment me? I'm a great looking female! I hear it from everyone! But, never him.. I need serious advice. He has no faith in us whatsoever! He said he would cheat and he knows i'd do the same. I would not! I'm dedicated to my soldier. Can someone please tell me what I should do?!?!

Dk, take a breath... This isn't the end of the world. Consider the facts of what he said to you: that he'd cheat on you and (assume) you'd do the same. Basically he's saying that he'll do whatever he wants. He's not the husband you deserve. While watching porn as a couple has helped some, it's not for everyone and commenting on the woman in the video isn't exactly a way to light the fire with you. You deserve someone who will treat you as an equal in the relationship. Don't hold on to a destructive man. You have your whole life ahead of you! You'll meet someone who will show you the respect you deserve.

 

[Archon]

Dk, you married an immature kid. He wants to live the single life. He talks to his ex, he wants to go out drinking with other girls, go to casinos, and not have you around for any of it.

You two really married way young. You have yet to experience anything outside high school. You have your whole life ahead of you! Don't let this destructive guy bring you down. You have the potential to go to college, learn things about the world, find a career path you enjoy, meet new friends. That's all very important years finding out more about yourself, and what you want in a long term relationship.

He is completely disrespectful of you and wants to live the single life. Don't let him get any more BAH out of you so he can go party it up. Getting a divorce isn't "bad". It can also be a good thing, a new beginning when the relationship is so hurtful.

 

[Archon]

Filing for divorce is different in every state. And every state has residency requirements, meaning you have to live there a certain amount of time before you can file. You don't need a lawyer if you have no assets together. If he agrees to get divorced, it can be really simple.

Go to this website and look for how to file in your state, on the left column. www.divorcesupport.com

 

[Archon]

Consider me just someone that wants to help...

Not too familiar with specific laws outside of Texas but I highly recommend you go to this webpage, which has amazing information and free forms.