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My H and I are trying to have a baby and if I get pregnant we want his mom to live with us and take care of the baby until it is school age. There is one road-block to this, though - MIL is extremely religious. I lean more towards atheism. My H is Christian with no church affiliation.
She has sent us tons of books and dvds about going to hell if you don't accept christ, told us stories about kids who come back from hell and say they wish their parents had protected them, and even said we are living in sin since we weren't married in her church, etc. Just really negative things.
This is a problem.
What I'm wondering is, should I even consider trying to place a boundary on this? I don't know if I'd just be setting myself up for trouble. Part of me thinks I could just ignore her negative comments but maybe that would change when she's saying it in front of my kid. Even if she abstained from that kind of talk in front of us, I think I would always be suspicious of what she was saying when we're not there. This stuff is her entire life. maybe i should come to some sort of compromise?
My H and I strongly object to daycare. I feel like having MIL watch the baby would be the lesser of two evils. Other then the religious issue I think she would be a great guardian. But maybe this religious issue could be worse? I don't know.
Any thoughts?
She has sent us tons of books and dvds about going to hell if you don't accept christ, told us stories about kids who come back from hell and say they wish their parents had protected them, and even said we are living in sin since we weren't married in her church, etc. Just really negative things.
This is a problem.
What I'm wondering is, should I even consider trying to place a boundary on this? I don't know if I'd just be setting myself up for trouble. Part of me thinks I could just ignore her negative comments but maybe that would change when she's saying it in front of my kid. Even if she abstained from that kind of talk in front of us, I think I would always be suspicious of what she was saying when we're not there. This stuff is her entire life. maybe i should come to some sort of compromise?
My H and I strongly object to daycare. I feel like having MIL watch the baby would be the lesser of two evils. Other then the religious issue I think she would be a great guardian. But maybe this religious issue could be worse? I don't know.
Any thoughts?