Alright, well, first question might be - why are you strongly opposed to daycare?
Take this with a grain of salt, but in my opinion, you are asking for a world of hurt. I am in a very similiar situation - my grandmother moved in with me and H to help with childcare for similiar reasons - and, its a blessing and a curse. While yes, she provides my son with very good care, she feeds him good food, he's always clean, he's changed, she colors and plays, and they get along well ... it comes at a cost. Perhaps not financial like a daycare might, but emotional.
While she's not a religious fanatic like your MIL is, she has Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and its literally like living in a madhouse. It causes fights between me and H, and is a big strain on our marriage and my sanity every day.
If you haven't established boundaries with her by now about her telling you about what hell-bound sinners you are, I doubt she'll listen now. What's the motivation? She'll have full daily access to her grandchild, likely after a long time of directly insulting his/her parents about their beliefs/thoughts/feelings - what is going to be the great motivator to change if regardless of this factor you want her to move in with you?
This situation is going to put your husband, in a difficult situation, which is potentially mediating daily between you and his mother if she gets in a tither about something. Not every once in a while, not - at holidays, but every single day. Speaking from the other side of the table and that kind of experience, it gets to be a real drain.
This also doesn't cover things like - given how religious she is, and how much she doesn't see your marriage as legit - is having sex with her in the house going to be awkward, will she make comments/inquires/judgements?
Is she going to leave once the baby is school age, or are you planning on her living with you - forever after that? What are the expectations of her contributing to the household? If she provides childcare - is she going to pay rent? For groceries?
If it doesn't work out - and you don't believe in daycare - what happens then?
I could likely start a whole thread myself on this topic, but - I'm just going to say, that I'd recommend at least considering and researching some childcare alternatives - as, while this could work out to be a very great situation, given what you already know about MIL's personality - it could also turn out to be a very bad one.
Take this with a grain of salt, but in my opinion, you are asking for a world of hurt. I am in a very similiar situation - my grandmother moved in with me and H to help with childcare for similiar reasons - and, its a blessing and a curse. While yes, she provides my son with very good care, she feeds him good food, he's always clean, he's changed, she colors and plays, and they get along well ... it comes at a cost. Perhaps not financial like a daycare might, but emotional.
While she's not a religious fanatic like your MIL is, she has Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and its literally like living in a madhouse. It causes fights between me and H, and is a big strain on our marriage and my sanity every day.
If you haven't established boundaries with her by now about her telling you about what hell-bound sinners you are, I doubt she'll listen now. What's the motivation? She'll have full daily access to her grandchild, likely after a long time of directly insulting his/her parents about their beliefs/thoughts/feelings - what is going to be the great motivator to change if regardless of this factor you want her to move in with you?
This situation is going to put your husband, in a difficult situation, which is potentially mediating daily between you and his mother if she gets in a tither about something. Not every once in a while, not - at holidays, but every single day. Speaking from the other side of the table and that kind of experience, it gets to be a real drain.
This also doesn't cover things like - given how religious she is, and how much she doesn't see your marriage as legit - is having sex with her in the house going to be awkward, will she make comments/inquires/judgements?
Is she going to leave once the baby is school age, or are you planning on her living with you - forever after that? What are the expectations of her contributing to the household? If she provides childcare - is she going to pay rent? For groceries?
If it doesn't work out - and you don't believe in daycare - what happens then?
I could likely start a whole thread myself on this topic, but - I'm just going to say, that I'd recommend at least considering and researching some childcare alternatives - as, while this could work out to be a very great situation, given what you already know about MIL's personality - it could also turn out to be a very bad one.