My exwife said the same thing. Then she did the math, as you will do- and realize that zero dollars doesn't go far towards covering monthly expenses.I am not financially independent (also qualified but 0 work experience - which will only get worse with age). I do not want a single cent from him if I divorce him.
How is it you do that exactly?I'm contemplating divorcing my husband once our child is well into college (in the next 10-15 years).
I don't know - you tell me - is he terrible? You sound defensive. Also your approach (as others have said) sounds absurd. You resent him for being his mother's puppet although that is the culture he (and you) were raised in. You married him because he can provide well for you and your kids (something that your father didn't do) and are putting up with him until the kids are older (10-15 years from now!!!!). This doesn't sound fair to you, the kids or him! He does not know that you are planning to leave and are lining up your ducks in a row in preparation instead of dealing with it now.Does a spouse have to be a terrible person in order to qualify for divorce?
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Please don't wait out the next 10-15 years. Please don't. Take it from me, i did. I wish i had the self-confidence all those years ago to leave right then and there. Instead I waited 17 years and here i am - in my 50s. Don't waste time.Hi everyone!
I just joined and I am really looking forward to other people's experiences and advice.
I haven't posted my situation yet but I'll do it when I have enough time at a stretch. But in the meantime, I really wanted to know if there is anybody here who has gotten divorced after their kids moved out. What were your feelings like? How did you cope with being single at a late age (financially and otherwise)? If you were a stay-at-home mom all your kids' lives, did you manage to become financially independent? What were the positives and negatives for you?
I'm contemplating divorcing my husband once our child is well into college (in the next 10-15 years). I am not financially independent (also qualified but 0 work experience - which will only get worse with age). I do not want a single cent from him if I divorce him.
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