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Mine doesn't

It's my "Safe Haven"

It's either this or vent our issues to folks she knows. That would probably push her over the edge a bit I think!

mine does she is ok with it

Mine knows but doesn't comment about it either way.

Mine knows I post here. He knows my username. I won't post anything here that I wouldn't mind him reading. Occasionally, he'll ask me "So what's happening on that marriage place you visit?"

In_The_Wind said:

mine does she is ok with it

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In The Wind, from what I gather your marriage seems pretty positive.

mine does

My H knows and even knows my screen name. He is ok with it and I can not tell you for sure if he has even read the things I have put out there. I have no idea about that.

My husband knows that if I'm here...he's f*cked up somehwere

I'll even have him read a post similar to my felings (hint...hint). Or read something that I'd like to have a conversation about; he won't get defensive because it's "someone else's issue".

Maybe let him catch you on a thread and ask his opinion...may open up some good conversation.

Hubby doesn't know, but I wouldn't mind if he did find out. I'd say the same things anyway.

TeR:

I just might give that a try. It's not that I'm trying to hide it because if he asks I will tell him. I worry about his reaction to my posting personal stuff.

Toffee:

I'm starting to feel like this is my safe haven too. Don't feel so alone knowing there are others going through the same crap.

Toffer said:

Mine doesn't

It's my "Safe Haven"

It's either this or vent our issues to folks she knows. That would probably push her over the edge a bit I think!

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This. :iagree:

Toffer said:

Mine doesn't

It's my "Safe Haven"

It's either this or vent our issues to folks she knows. That would probably push her over the edge a bit I think!

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Me too... This is a place I can vent, without his friends/family hearing about it.

He would be ballistic, if he knew I came here.

A safe place is good to have. Though I came looking for answers for us, not as safe haven, so to speak.

DW is a member here too. She's not as active. She reads, when she has a question. Doesn't post much.

I can understand the importance of privacy it should play for some.

H know's I post here, he's read my posts and I point out interesting post from time to time.

No idea. Just a thought, isn't it bad to post on here and not talk to your spouse/so about your issues? I read so much about this type of emotional affair it makes me wonder.

2ntnuf said:

No idea. Just a thought, isn't it bad to post on here and not talk to your spouse/so about your issues? I read so much about this type of emotional affair it makes me wonder.

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:nono:

I don't agree. Some of us come to ask for the best approach to having the talk...some of us come to vent and not hurt our partners' feelings...some of us come to discuss things our partner may not be comfortable discussing...some of us can get another point of view and then understand our partner better (never getting into a fight)...etc.

It's healthy to talk to other people; like a support group

If anyone is coming to Talk About Marriage to seek affairs, emotional or otherwise, they're in the wrong place.

Tango said:

I was just wondering if everyone's SO knows that they are on a marriage forum? My H doesn't and I don't think he would be very happy about me putting our private life "out there". There is so much good info here, I wish he would look for help here.

Cheers

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No mine does not know. I think he would be a bit upset if he knew. It's my haven. I have gotten a lot of wonderful advise here. The people here are very nice also. I also wish sometimes that he could look on here without knowing I am on this forum. I think he would be surprised at all the information.

I told my H about it when I found the board. He reads here sometimes, so he's seen my posts. We've even discussed some topics after they were brought up here. He talked about signing up, but he's not into forums like this too much. Although, I did think it would be sort of weird for us both to post here.

Tango said:

I was just wondering if everyone's SO knows that they are on a marriage forum? My H doesn't and I don't think he would be very happy about me putting our private life "out there". There is so much good info here, I wish he would look for help here.

Cheers

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Ya, he knows...and too bad if he doesn't like that I'm here putting it all out there. It's down to him that I found TAM in the first place, soooo....he really has nothing to say about it.