I'm in the exact same boat. My wife is about 45 and going through menopause. It got bad about two months ago. She barely speaks to me, won't touch me, yet sometimes she will say she loves me as if she's fighting something. She told me recently that she's trying not to be angry with me.
I finally tried talking to her about it last night, which failed miserably. I ended up feeling like the spawn of Satan. Speaks of me like I'm a dog, as the other poster put it. It's as if she is blocking out every positive fact from the recent past, and misunderstanding everything I say to the point of being irrational. I'm 100% convinced there was not one thing I could say apart from "You're right" that would have made her feel even the least bit better.
I've been down a similar road before when she got post-partum after our first child, which was truly a nightmare that lasted six months until we found the right medications. At least now I can keep my head on straight and not take it so personally.
Based on advice in this thread, it sounds like I really need to keep my cool, keep showing I love her, and just ride out the storm. I obviously made a mistake last night by confronting it.
According to Hope1964, I'm supposed to approach my wife for a menopause celebration date. I will report back on how many slaps I get from her for even daring to suggest that her feelings are based on hormones rather than facts...
