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Not too much more to the question. In your single years, would you date a woman who told you she had herpes?
Men, would you consider a woman with herpes?
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it would probably drop her sex rank by a couple points. but I'd still date her and avoid the topic of sex - if we clicked I'd probably spend some time looking into dealing with a partner with herpes before I decided to get sexual. Ultimately I don't want to wear rubbers all the time in an exclusive relationship.
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if the positives outweighed the negatives.
dose she have frequent out breaks?
will she take care of me oraly if she has an outbreak?
dose she have frequent out breaks?
will she take care of me oraly if she has an outbreak?
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Real chemistry [ attraction ] and love can make people things they never thought they would do..
A man might say " never" , but when they feel " mad chemistry" with a woman , the heart overrides the brain.
I've seen that happen many times.
I know a guy who met, fell in love and married a HIV+ woman.
But in our country, healthcare for HIV+ people if free.
They get free access to specialized treatment , so they carry on normal lives.
A lot depends on the initial chemistry between the two.
The most important thing is disclosure IMO.
As long as it can be properly managed.
A man might say " never" , but when they feel " mad chemistry" with a woman , the heart overrides the brain.
I've seen that happen many times.
I know a guy who met, fell in love and married a HIV+ woman.
But in our country, healthcare for HIV+ people if free.
They get free access to specialized treatment , so they carry on normal lives.
A lot depends on the initial chemistry between the two.
The most important thing is disclosure IMO.
As long as it can be properly managed.
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No.
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Thank you for your honest responses guys. Yeah, big surprise eh, the ex escort has an STD! I REALLY struggle when it all. I am pretty sure that there is just to much bad about me, it doesn't even come close to out weighing the good. Any suggestions on how to give up hope on having any love in your life completely?
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I think it was Iron Maiden that sang "Run to the hills, run for your life!!"
After the WW left I was out to lunch with a Dr. friend and he told me to watch out. He sees genital herpees in a lot of women. Told me something like 1 out of 4 have it!!!
After the WW left I was out to lunch with a Dr. friend and he told me to watch out. He sees genital herpees in a lot of women. Told me something like 1 out of 4 have it!!!
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There are herpes support groups and dating sites for people with all sorts of STD's. I'd start with the support groups first.
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Yeah, the support forums really aren't all that supportive, there are some really condescending people on there who never have any issues with dating or anything, and they don't seem to get it, that some of us just aren't blessed with being surrounded by people who don't think its a big deal. Yeah sure, they say 1 in 4 people have genital, and like 1 in 2 people have face herpes (so according to those statistics, basically everyone has something), but I seem to live in the only town that happens to have no one (so they say) that has herpes. I know its impossible, but so far, thats how it seems.
The dating sites all share profiles, you sign up with one saying you have herpes, and its likely you will find your profile elsewhere saying you have something like aids and what not. Positivesingles, the largest std dating site, has a joint class action lawsuit against them for that very thing.
Beachguy yeah the simplex 2. Its funny though right, that if 75% of the population has it on their faces, why so hateful and judgmental against those of us who get it somewhere that isn't visible to the world? Hypocrites.
The dating sites all share profiles, you sign up with one saying you have herpes, and its likely you will find your profile elsewhere saying you have something like aids and what not. Positivesingles, the largest std dating site, has a joint class action lawsuit against them for that very thing.
Beachguy yeah the simplex 2. Its funny though right, that if 75% of the population has it on their faces, why so hateful and judgmental against those of us who get it somewhere that isn't visible to the world? Hypocrites.
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It would depend on the woman. If the chemistry was right I would not rule her out. I'd need to be committed long term before going uncovered with her, but once committed (i.e. married) I'd proceed as any normal relationship.
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If you really believe that, therapy may help boost you back up.
Not trying to get on you, but if you give off a negative vibe like that to guys, that may run them off quicker than the STD.
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Thunderstruck. I didnt used to think that, until I had been rejected by multiple men for having herpes. The escort thing? Never an issue, kind of turns them on even, its when I say "Oh btw, before we go any further, I want to let you know that I have herpes, not the mouth kind, but I take meds and am as safe as one can be." Its always met with "Oh, damn, that is really too bad." Its not so much what I believe, but what I have been shown about myself, repeatedly. At some point, one has to accept what society is telling them. Its like if I was a terrible singer, despite the fact that I thought I was great, I would have to eventually believe it when everyone tells me I suck (just an example of course).
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IBHFA, at least you're being truthful and honest upfront. Yes, you're going to get alot of rejection but one day you'll find the one guy who'll love that honesty and who can handle it.
It's better than hooking them in and then dropping the bomb on them after the fact.
Just keep on being honest and that one guy will be there one day. Also, the one that does want to be with you, he probably is a keeper.
It's the same with anything, the heavier girl, the short guy, the nerd, the not so good looking guy/girl, the flat chest girl, etc....You'll get alot of rejections but if you just quit, you'll never find that person who would like and eventually love you for who you are.
It's better than hooking them in and then dropping the bomb on them after the fact.
Just keep on being honest and that one guy will be there one day. Also, the one that does want to be with you, he probably is a keeper.
It's the same with anything, the heavier girl, the short guy, the nerd, the not so good looking guy/girl, the flat chest girl, etc....You'll get alot of rejections but if you just quit, you'll never find that person who would like and eventually love you for who you are.
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^ I am way flat chested too, and not real attractive. See I have a lot stacked up against me! Thats why I say I just need to find a way to give up on any hope.
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I answered "no" to your question, but there are millions of other guys out there for you who would not say no. Keep trying.
Don't worry about being flat. Many guys, including me, like them in all sizes, and I'm sure you're more attractive to men than you think.
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Men like to look at me (and they used to like to pay me to have sex with them, maybe still but I don't do that anymore) but thats as far as it seems to go. The few that get to know me, like me, but I am just never quite good enough to be someone worth anything real
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Maybe it's more about the guys you're attracting. Do you keep hooking up with players/users?The few that get to know me, like me, but I am just never quite good enough to be someone worth anything real
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No. The last guy who rejected me was looking for, and now has a long term girlfriend. The most recent guy (though he says he's not wanting a girlfriend), is a really, really fantastic man, and I am sure will have a girlfriend very soon.
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