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Does Your Wife Still Find You Physically Attractive?

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Do you think your wife still finds you, on a purely physical and sexual level, attractive?

Does she still give you those lustful eyes?
Does she still run her hands across your body?
Does she still crave your c0ck?
Does she still give you verbal compliments about your looks?

If so, do you think this adds to your level of attraction for her and improves your marriage?

If not, do you think this has had a detrimental effect on your attraction for her and your overall marriage?
 

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Yes and no.

She is post menopausal now so finds she does not get randy nearly so often.

She definitely 'wants' me more when I am lighter, trimmer, than when I have put on some weight.

Ask me this about a year ago and I would have said "holy crap, yes."
 

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I'm glad you had the "I don't have a f*cking clue" option. And yeah, the doubt that situation has sewn has had a negative impact, at least to a certain extent, on my attraction for her and on the marriage.

She's enthusiastic in bed "during", so at least there's that, but otherwise I get no feedback whatsoever.
 

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I'm glad you had the "I don't have a f*cking clue" option. And yeah, the doubt that situation has sewn has had a negative impact, at least to a certain extent, on my attraction for her and on the marriage.

She's enthusiastic in bed "during", so at least there's that, but otherwise I get no feedback whatsoever.
Has that always been the case? Have you guys ever talked about it?
 

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Yes she does even though I am older and heavier and, yes it keeps the sparks flying. And from my side I feel the same about her even though she has the stretch marks and extra weight from having our child.
Our relationship is built from the inside out.
 

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Has that always been the case? Have you guys ever talked about it?
As to the first question, hell to the no. She was all over me initially. Made me really feel like "the man".

I tried to raise the issue once, but I was starting to sound too needy for my tastes and wasn't getting much feedback anyways, so I dropped it.

Physically, I think I'm fine. I maybe weigh 10 more pounds than when we married 30 years ago (married young), still have most of my hair, and most of it's still brown. I'm no underwear model, but not bad.

So I don't discount the fact that it could be non-physical. I've worked on myself, and while that's good for its own sake, can't say it's made much difference.

Or maybe I'm dense and can't see that she's attracted. Hell if I know. I'm the dumbest smart guy I know, sometimes.
 

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Libido from a typical college girl is sex everyday!! I don't care what any study says the most sex I ever had was in college nothing was even close. Everyone was banging and now it's far worse since women have so many options and are more enabled/supported in their sexual choices.

My wife and I have been married 20 years, so do we still get freaky? Hell Yeah, but is it like when we were 22 or in college at frat parties etc that's a Hell NO!!

I would say if we go a week it becomes............."Hey, it's been awhile" on both of our ends.

That raw unbridle primal................I"m going to F#ck his brains out!! That died with the days of sexual craziness back in the day.
 

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Yes - but then who wouldn't :p

Seriously I think she wishes I was younger (and I heartily agree), but she is still attracted to me.
 

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Libido from a typical college girl is sex everyday!! I don't care what any study says the most sex I ever had was in college nothing was even close. Everyone was banging and now it's far worse since women have so many options and are more enabled/supported in their sexual choices.

My wife and I have been married 20 years, so do we still get freaky? Hell Yeah, but is it like when we were 22 or in college at frat parties etc that's a Hell NO!!

I would say if we go a week it becomes............."Hey, it's been awhile" on both of our ends.

That raw unbridle primal................I"m going to F#ck his brains out!! That died with the days of sexual craziness back in the day.
Yes, but does your wife still find you hot?
 

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My wife definitely doesn't, I'm 36, full head of salt pepper hair, good shape I workout often, I've been told I look like Colin Farrell, make over 6 figures, and she could not give less ****s lol...

We went on vacation with my brother and his wife and she's like a flirting High School girl. I could literally be mid-conversation and when my brother walked in the door she would cease speaking to me mid-sentence and strike up a conversation with him. If I needed to find my wife all I needed to do was find my brother, she didn't even realize she was doing it, but really she's moving on, it's obvious I need to too. She hasn't looked at me as a sexual option since we were in our early twenties.
 

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Libido from a typical college girl is sex everyday!! I don't care what any study says the most sex I ever had was in college nothing was even close. Everyone was banging and now it's far worse since women have so many options and are more enabled/supported in their sexual choices.



My wife and I have been married 20 years, so do we still get freaky? Hell Yeah, but is it like when we were 22 or in college at frat parties etc that's a Hell NO!!



I would say if we go a week it becomes............."Hey, it's been awhile" on both of our ends.



That raw unbridle primal................I"m going to F#ck his brains out!! That died with the days of sexual craziness back in the day.

But the question is does she still find you sexually and physically attractive or do you equate frequency and intensity in bed with attractiveness?
 

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She says she does, but only rarely. Been married going on 30 years - I'm in the best shape I've ever been in. Every so often, I might get an arm squeeze in bed. Not much more than that.
 

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Do you think your wife still finds you, on a purely physical and sexual level, attractive?
Yes, she shows it to me on regular basis (verbal and physical)

Does she still give you those lustful eyes?
Does she still run her hands across your body?
Does she still crave your c0ck?
Does she still give you verbal compliments about your looks?

If so, do you think this adds to your level of attraction for her and improves your marriage?
Yes to all

If not, do you think this has had a detrimental effect on your attraction for her and your overall marriage?
Of course it would....
 

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Yes to all for me. She states every day that she finds me physically attractive.
 

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I sure don't know how to answer. We've been married over 30 years. For the first 20-25 I never felt that she was too interested in me physically. Now that I am graying, losing hair and have gained about 20 pounds....she seems to tell me often that she likes my body. I think she may just be trying to motivate me to lose some weight. Who knows?
 

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If so, do you think this adds to your level of attraction for her and improves your marriage?
While I do demonstrate my desire for him, it wouldn't count for much if I'm not meeting my husband's emotional needs. It goes hand-in-hand for our marriage.
 
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