I have been married for 33 years. We have had our share of ups and downs, but have raised two happily married boys, and have two grandchildren. About 3 years ago we moved to the country. My husband is on disability, and I work full time. I know at first he was bored being around the house all day, and things didn't bother me until they have escalated to the point that they are now. There is a bar located right near our house. My husband and his group of buddies go there a lot. I have gone with him on a few occasions, but dispite other wives are there, I feel out of place. I enjoy a good time, but too much has happened. My husband chooses to be with his friends over me almost all of the time. I have told him that I want a divorce, I really don't think I do, but if I am to be alone living with him, I might as well be alone on my own. He says he does not want a divorce, but when I asked him until we get our relationship back on track would he give up going with his friends for however long it takes. He refuses to discuss it, as he feels there is nothing wrong with what he is doing. (There is no other woman) I want to make things work but as they are now it never will. If I have brought up going out say early in the week, he might say he will take me but when the time comes, he always has an excuse not to go out. If I am out of the picture he goes out most everytime. Am I being unreasonable to expect him to "give up" his friends for a time for us to get our relationship on track? Or am I fighting a losing battle as his friends will always be in the middle of our marriage? I am really thinking of a divorce, and would love to read some comments from others. I am desperate.