My husband and I have been married for 21 1/2 years. He is 10 years older than me...he is in his 50's and I am in my 40's. Up until about 2 years ago we had a great sex life and were equally happy with how often we had sex. My husband is on blood pressure meds and so am I but he has been on them for about 10 years. I convinced him to go to the Dr. because he was having a hard time getting stimulated. Got the pills but he never takes one or tries to initiate any sexual activity and if I bring it up he gets defensive. I know this is a hard thing for a man but we are such a close couple that we are able to talk about just about everything. I brought it up tonight and he said he just didn't have the urge. I told him we got you the pills. He said you don't understand I don't have the URGE. He says that it is not me and I believe him he still kisses me and touches me but for gods sake I need something more. Most women will even fake it. Why won't he even try?????