I did not marry a virgin.
What I did was date a nympho and marry a prude. I still suspect there was something in the wedding cake.
What I did was date a nympho and marry a prude. I still suspect there was something in the wedding cake.
I married a girl with limited experience. Although, not as limited as she claims. I made the classic mistake of dating for a while and the sex was great, then the sex cooled off, which she claimed was only because of not being married, so I bought it.So what is your experience?
Did you marry a virgin? Or someone with experience?
And would you say you are sexually satisfied? Or is it anything but?
Hey, pal, at least you had oral. Wadda ya' *****in' about?were both modern virgins(meaning we had done oral with each other)..
Biggest mistake I made was not being clear on my sexual expectations..I thought she would just
adapt and love it all cuz we “loved“ each other..
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Unfortunately test driving does not mean that what you test drove will run the same way after marriage... boy did I learn that one!!!Yes, I married a virgin. Even if I could do it again, I would not. At least, not without having a VERY long and detailed discussion about sexual expectations after marriage. Contract in blood and all that.
Turns out that missed test drive was pretty important. Were it not for sex, I don't think we'd fight more than a few times a year. Our current sexual situation is by both accounts our single greatest marital failure and source of pain, angst, and lost connection.
We married in 1985 in the Catholic church. They made us take a pre-marital course on finances, child rearing, personality inventories, the whole nine yards. But they ignored the part about sex, and we were too young and naive to know. Lo and behold...
yes oral..and ONLY if I ask for it..its not so much that she doesnt do things, she just isnt interestedHey, pal, at least you had oral. Wadda ya' *****in' about?
I had a handful of women before I got married. They all enjoyed sex just fine, and none were squeamish or repulsed by any of it. I didn't know LD people even existed until I married one.
I don't know what exactly are your expectations, but I understand your struggle. Us HD spouses can suffer just as much self-doubt about our orientation, desires, and drives as the spouse who wonders why they don't like sex that much.
In the end, there's nothing wrong with either of you. It's not the individuals that are the problem, it's the mismatch. Your wants and desires are perfectly reasonable (we're not talking cannibalism here, are we?) and so are you wife's.
Haven't got a clue. Do go on?all it is is incompatibility, high drive and low drive..no motivation
to change, etc..boring in other words when only one spouse
wants sex know what Im sayin?
I feel the same, while I know I'm the odd man out because I was sexually active a few years before dating my H, I can say that this is the most fulfilling relationship I've been in. Ironically, he was my only relationship that didnt involve sex. ( not to say that it wasnt hard to abstain for us). But sadly I get grouped into stereotypes of women trying to trick men into marriage. Not saying it doesn't happen, but I disagree that abstaining always means that the person isn't that into you or that things can't work out.We don't knock anyone who decide to test drive. Most do, and that is just the reality of the times we live in. But from where we stand, watching so many sexually challenged, and sexually dead marriages, the majority of which included sex pre-marriage, we don't feel like test-driving has really done anything to improve the state of marriage.
trust me u dont want me toHaven't got a clue. Do go on?![]()
All you have to do is take a short tour around this board, or through the wasteland of marriages among the people in your own life, to witness how the increase of pre-marital sex has done nothing to improve the overall longevity of marriage.I feel the same, while I know I'm the odd man out because I was sexually active a few years before dating my H, I can say that this is the most fulfilling relationship I've been in. Ironically, he was my only relationship that didnt involve sex. ( not to say that it wasnt hard to abstain for us). But sadly I get grouped into stereotypes of women trying to trick men into marriage. Not saying it doesn't happen, but I disagree that abstaining always means that the person isn't that into you or that things can't work out.