I just recently realised that my husband is passive aggressive and really don't know what to do or the way forward.
We have been married for 3 years and apart from the past 6/7 months its been a nightmare. Me and my husband dated for a year and he seemed to be one of the nicest men i have ever met, honest and soo in love with me. Although we did not have sex till after marriage, looking back this was weird, but at the time i thought this was sweet.
Within MONTHS of being married my husband told me he could not have sex without a condom..later he owned up to lying...then he was constantly in touch with his ex girfriend who he was deeply in love with and wanted to marry.
On many occassions i told him that he is free to be with her if thats what he wants but everytime he denied it.
Then came the withholding sex for no apparent reason. this really hurt me and caused alot of stress...this induced my endometriosis, he showed NO care at all even after the two hour operation, he was more concerned about having a night out.
Throughout these three years i have found him to be womanising...these girls are either his work colleagues or his friends wives!.....it causes alot of arguements between us but everytime we argue he just shows a careless attitude and the next day he pretends as if nothing has happened.
If we had an arguement or i've said something to upset him then he will seek revenge by no completing household chores or simply just ignoring me.
I have to ask him several times to complete basic tasks...for example it took me 6 months to get him to have his sperm count done!...it took four weeks to get him to obtain his report.
His count is a little low and i have endometriosis...he still continues to smoke and shows no interest in having children despite being 35 and me being 33. I now feel im just wasting my life with this man!...sex seems like a chore to him (he has a phimosis) and although for the past 7 months he has not withhold it from me i cant seem to enjoy it with him. i really want to children but am now worried how i would cope.
Everyday he ritually watches tv for 2 to 3 hours and expects me to sit and do the same...i cant do it...i want to work and do things round the house but he gets upset and withdraws from me.
I can never talk to him about problems i might have at work, if i do then he get angry at me..there is no emotional attachment.its like before marriage he really loved me and now i seem to be begging for love and attentin
I feel i am in constant battle with him, hes very competitve with me..and if i make an effort to take care of my appearance he gets jealouse. He gets these trait from his mum...she is exactly the same.
Recently i told him i cant cope with this anymore, i told him that he is passive aggressive but he reuses it....for the past few days hes making alot of effort but i feel no love anymore.
Few months ago i recieved an anonymous email warning me against my husband...
Any thoughts on my situation?
We have been married for 3 years and apart from the past 6/7 months its been a nightmare. Me and my husband dated for a year and he seemed to be one of the nicest men i have ever met, honest and soo in love with me. Although we did not have sex till after marriage, looking back this was weird, but at the time i thought this was sweet.
Within MONTHS of being married my husband told me he could not have sex without a condom..later he owned up to lying...then he was constantly in touch with his ex girfriend who he was deeply in love with and wanted to marry.
On many occassions i told him that he is free to be with her if thats what he wants but everytime he denied it.
Then came the withholding sex for no apparent reason. this really hurt me and caused alot of stress...this induced my endometriosis, he showed NO care at all even after the two hour operation, he was more concerned about having a night out.
Throughout these three years i have found him to be womanising...these girls are either his work colleagues or his friends wives!.....it causes alot of arguements between us but everytime we argue he just shows a careless attitude and the next day he pretends as if nothing has happened.
If we had an arguement or i've said something to upset him then he will seek revenge by no completing household chores or simply just ignoring me.
I have to ask him several times to complete basic tasks...for example it took me 6 months to get him to have his sperm count done!...it took four weeks to get him to obtain his report.
His count is a little low and i have endometriosis...he still continues to smoke and shows no interest in having children despite being 35 and me being 33. I now feel im just wasting my life with this man!...sex seems like a chore to him (he has a phimosis) and although for the past 7 months he has not withhold it from me i cant seem to enjoy it with him. i really want to children but am now worried how i would cope.
Everyday he ritually watches tv for 2 to 3 hours and expects me to sit and do the same...i cant do it...i want to work and do things round the house but he gets upset and withdraws from me.
I can never talk to him about problems i might have at work, if i do then he get angry at me..there is no emotional attachment.its like before marriage he really loved me and now i seem to be begging for love and attentin
I feel i am in constant battle with him, hes very competitve with me..and if i make an effort to take care of my appearance he gets jealouse. He gets these trait from his mum...she is exactly the same.
Recently i told him i cant cope with this anymore, i told him that he is passive aggressive but he reuses it....for the past few days hes making alot of effort but i feel no love anymore.
Few months ago i recieved an anonymous email warning me against my husband...
Any thoughts on my situation?