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I married a man who I fell in love with. But I was pressured from the get go.

He has 4 children. 2 are adopted by his ex wife, 2 are biological.

They were married 20 years, two years before the split she adopted, why I don't know. I believe it was to try and save their marriage.

Anyway he met me and I fell for him and we married.
But she is always in the picture.

I recently left, because it was so much chaos and stress, I wasn't coping. I lost my job, finances, and just recently
some more personal items.
I have tried to handle the relationship but for some reason it frightens me. I don't know if its the kids being there so little, and mine are late teenagers.
He relies heavily on his ex wife for money, his phone, things that he shouldn't be doing now that he's remarried.
Did he really leave her, or is he still attached to her and just
living his life with me.
I'm not sure he is in it with me because actions speak louder than words.
I feel like a third wheel between these two and their children.
It's really not fair anymore.
I'm not sure I want to go back.
I deserve so much more than a lover.

Any advice?
 

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You should have thought about that before you married him. Look at it this way he came with baggage....previous marriage(s) and kids. You will always play back seat to them. Are you willing to play that role? Do you love him enough...if you don't then let him go.

How many years have you been married? How many years/months was he divorced before he even met you?
 

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It sounds like you made a decision to marry under pressure.

Probably not the best way to walk down the aisle.

From your post, it sounds like leaving was a wise decision.

Good luck.
 
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