I would feel very uncomfortable with your H's attitude regarding the 50 year old, and I would be equally as uncomfortable at him frequenting night clubs whilst on business trips and associating with married people who sleep with prostitutes.
It's up to you how you approach this, OP, but this isn't something I would tolerate in my relationship.
Businessmen going to strip clubs and worse is fairly common, and has been for 100 years. It doesn't make it right, but I think the ladies have to understand the realities in life. Some men think of these trips as sexual and moral vacations. In parts of Europe, Asia, and South America, this behavior is very common, and not seen as a significant moral issue.
So the OP needs to worry about her husband and not worry about all the other men. Her husband will probably need to go to these night clubs if his clients want to go there. He might even need to pay for the other men's prostitutes to help close the deal. The customer is always right.
But good salesmen will not engage in these activities themselves. It gives them the moral high ground and the clients will actually respect him for not indulging. They will think he is the luckiest man in the world if he says that his wife is better than any prostitute. A good salesman also knows that he always wants to have dirt on his clients, but not the other way around.
So hopefully the OP's husband is a smart salesman. but that kind of temptation is very powerful. If he is at one of these clubs and the marriage is having issues, that is what leads men to give in to it.
Because that kind of temptation is very powerful, I don't think it's a good idea for anyone who values their marriage to place themselves in that sort of position.
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Some men think of these trips as sexual and moral vacations.
What the OP's H told her will have now made her ill at ease when he goes on future business trips, and this shouldn't happen.
Of course trust is essential in every relationship, but dangle that sort of information before a spouse, and it's going to make the most trusting partner uncomfortable...
If I were to go on a GNO with my friends, then came home and told my partner that a few of my married friends had hooked up and had sex with strangers, even though he knows that I'm far from weak and helpless, I've got a sneaking feeling he wouldn't be too happy next time I was meeting up with them...
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