That is quite a worrying attitude, to be honest. I agree with sdcott about maybe asking him not to go to the nightclubs. To be quite honest with you, I don't understand why married people want to go to nightclubs - because to me they are full of drunk, desperate people(of both sexes!). But that's just me.
I think you need to explain to him that you would absolutely NOT accept him engaging in the kind of behaviour his colleagues did, and if there is any chance of it, you want him not to socialise with them at all in settings such as these 'nightclubs'.
I agree. WTF??? I'd like to hear my husband say that about being 50...I might just lose control of my reflexes then and bop him one in the nose...if he's lucky enough to have me enough in my senses to have a higher aim. If you know what I mean.
My husband is on a high profile business trip right now where he is socializing with his clients as well.. He told me on the phone that his clients and he had gone to a night club and two of his colleages actually had sex with the girls there. (It was a night club with these facilities).. I am sure he did not do any of these things, otherwise he would not have shared all the details with me.. One of these men was 50, married and has family. Other one was also married, 35. It seemed to me, the way my husband described that these men had a very casual attitude towards sex and they were without any guilt or shame. I asked my husband what is your opinion, and he said that the 50 year old atleast should not be judged since he is already 50 and has been with family for all these years.
What do you all think? Is it so casual these days for men to go out and pay for sex when they are travelling? I think its disgusting and I would certainly not tolerate this kind of behaviour from my man. I am afraid he has many of these business trips during the year and I do not know when he will himself give in to temptation. We are about year into our marriage and its going smooth so far. But these trips do make me really nervous.
God I'm tired of hearing about how weak and helpless men are in the presence of lusty sexual women that happen to not be their wives...[/QUOT
The point is to not to place a man in this situation, not that men are helpless. Bottom line it is very easy to exercise self-control when your not in a situation where the wrong head is talking. Why tempt?
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