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I am 29 years old and I am happily married to my husband. Right now he is in rehab and has been there since May 2012. He's not due to get out until March of 2013. So far I have been very loyal and faithful to him. A couple days ago, my 15month old son's dad contacted me. He wants me back. I thought I was over him until he called me. Now all the emotions and love I had for him 2 years ago are now flooding back. I don't know what to do. He knows I'm married. I just don't know what to do. He is is prison as well. He is due to get out in 2015. I told him to just sit tight and do his time and we will see what happens. Afterall, we are going to have a future anyways because we have a son together. Butthis is all so unexpected. How can I love two people? My heart is with my husband, but now I feel like my son's dad has a spot in my heart as well.
 

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Listen i got out of prison 2 months ago after serving 2years for something stupid. (a fight) i told my wife that things were gonna be so differant when i got out and i was convinced myself that i was a better person after spending all that time in a cell alone. you try to become a better person. but you also cant help but think about the people who were a good thing in your life i.e your ex! when i got out everything was good. but it didnt take long before you get back to reality and you become the ****head you always was. just be careful. your ex is going thru the emotions that prison gives you.

i told my wife a load of lies and i really belived i was going to be differant after prison!

good luck darling
 

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thanks tony. And to you sunny, my husband is a wonderful man. I wouldn't trade him for the world. His dad died and he handled it the wrong way with beer. My ex, now he was good in the beginning but then became very low. That's why I left. I thought I was over him completly. But then he called and I broke down. I still care for him as much as I did but I love my husband. I cry now when I think about my ex or when I talk to him. Apart of me wishes I was with him even though I'm happily married.
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I am 29 years old and I am happily married to my husband. Right now he is in rehab and has been there since May 2012. He's not due to get out until March of 2013. So far I have been very loyal and faithful to him. A couple days ago, my 15month old son's dad contacted me. He wants me back. I thought I was over him until he called me. Now all the emotions and love I had for him 2 years ago are now flooding back. I don't know what to do. He knows I'm married. I just don't know what to do. He is is prison as well. He is due to get out in 2015. I told him to just sit tight and do his time and we will see what happens. Afterall, we are going to have a future anyways because we have a son together. Butthis is all so unexpected. How can I love two people? My heart is with my husband, but now I feel like my son's dad has a spot in my heart as well.
Why are you giving him this hope while you are still married? Do you want them to kill eachother over you?
 

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No. I don't want any fighting and my ex said he'd back off since I'm happily married. Thing is strangely I don't want him to. I can control my action but I can't control my emotions. Id say I could just stop talking to him but with him being the father of our son that's a little hard to do. I will always have him in my future.
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So you don't want him to back off. Where do you think this is going to lead to?

Do you love your husband? Do you understand the potential danger you might be putting him in?

This is NOT an act of love.

Also, does he really need this kind of drama after rehab??
 

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you have a big decision to make and i know how hard it must be. i mean the man is the father of your child and that means a connection forever. if you truely belive your ex can get out of jail and be a real man then you need to consider it. you also have to think about your husband. will he ever get clean? do you want to chase him round forever? LISTEN TO YOUR HEART GIRL.

but trust me. men talk **** from behind bars... and i know that! im the biggest fool in london
 

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While I haven't been in this specific situation, I can understand how a person goes through loneliness when they are away from their familiar surroundings. They begin to miss what they had and long for it again. In my experience (not every person does this), if they get it all back it's only a matter of time before they start to take it for granted all over again. They forget what it feels like to lose it all. It may take a week or it may take a year but eventually, they get bored again. I wish you the best of luck. You should take some time to really consider the pros and cons of each person and what is best for you.
 

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Well, I will advise you to be with your “15month old son’s dad”. I don’t know that if your attempt will be ruder to your current husband or not. But you need to be with your 15 month old son. He is looking for you. No one is much “dearer and nearer” than parents, especially mother. God bless you.
 

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You keep saying how "happily married" you are.....I propose that your husband would not concur if he knew you we're in love with your ex and planning a relationship with him. Pick one or the other....you can't have both.
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