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As the title says, I've been married almost 20 years and never had an orgasm with husband. I am capable of an orgasm on my own with a vibrator or other methods, but never with husband. I even tried using a vibrator during sex, but no go.
I never have felt the rush of passion or lust with my husband. Never felt emotionally close to him or connected during sex. It's always more of a means for physical release. He used to try different things to help get me there, but after a while, I think we both just got discouraged and gave up. Now, when we do have sex (once a month at most), it's an unspoken assumption that I will not orgasm, so why try? Sex is boring, dull, and unsatisfying. It's very limited because of his weight as well (as discussed in my other thread).
I do have a sex drive. I really want sex, but not with husband who gave up on my satisfaction years ago and who has let himself gain 120 lbs which has severely affected our sex life.
Anyone have experience with different people with whom some you could orgasm and some you just couldn't? Is it about sexual chemistry, which my H and I clearly don't have? Really interested in your insight.
I never have felt the rush of passion or lust with my husband. Never felt emotionally close to him or connected during sex. It's always more of a means for physical release. He used to try different things to help get me there, but after a while, I think we both just got discouraged and gave up. Now, when we do have sex (once a month at most), it's an unspoken assumption that I will not orgasm, so why try? Sex is boring, dull, and unsatisfying. It's very limited because of his weight as well (as discussed in my other thread).
I do have a sex drive. I really want sex, but not with husband who gave up on my satisfaction years ago and who has let himself gain 120 lbs which has severely affected our sex life.
Anyone have experience with different people with whom some you could orgasm and some you just couldn't? Is it about sexual chemistry, which my H and I clearly don't have? Really interested in your insight.