Why would you ever sleep with someone in the first place that you've never felt the rush of passion or lust with?
Sexual chemistry is either there or it isn't.I figured as I got older, we'd mature and develop a real sexual connection.
This is precisely the subject of my other thread "Husband has gained 100+ lbs" in this subforum.But the 102 pounds would kill it for me. I have a weight limit and its about 30-40 pounds TOPS. That is a serious turn off.
My wife orgasmed in the first 20 minutes...And continued to do so thousands of times over the next 46 years...As the title says, I've been married almost 20 years and never had an orgasm with husband. I am capable of an orgasm on my own with a vibrator or other methods, but never with husband. I even tried using a vibrator during sex, but no go.
I never have felt the rush of passion or lust with my husband. Never felt emotionally close to him or connected during sex. It's always more of a means for physical release. He used to try different things to help get me there, but after a while, I think we both just got discouraged and gave up. Now, when we do have sex (once a month at most), it's an unspoken assumption that I will not orgasm, so why try? Sex is boring, dull, and unsatisfying. It's very limited because of his weight as well (as discussed in my other thread).
I do have a sex drive. I really want sex, but not with husband who gave up on my satisfaction years ago and who has let himself gain 120 lbs which has severely affected our sex life.
Anyone have experience with different people with whom some you could orgasm and some you just couldn't? Is it about sexual chemistry, which my H and I clearly don't have? Really interested in your insight.
Perhaps I'm at my "sexual peak" (late 30s), but right now, the thought of living the rest of my life in a sexually unfulfilling marriage makes me very restless. I know sex isn't everything, but I wonder how my life would be different if my sex life was satisfying and fulfilling.My wife orgasmed in the first 20 minutes...And continued to do so thousands of times over the next 46 years...
I just cannot immagine someone not having orgasms with their spouce....
I can't imagine what mind-blowing sex feels like. Today I'm finding myself immensely sad that I'm realizing so much of what I prided myself on being "loyal" to has actually been settling. I feel so alive and wanting to enjoy life, but I can't seem to let myself out of this cage I've allowed myself to be trapped in. Ultimately, I think that for me to find the happiness and fulfillment I want and deserve, it means divorcing my husband. I just can't reconcile the fact that my happiness means destroying my husband's. But I can't bear the thought of wasting more years living this way either. I'm in a very, very difficult place right now. The only hope I have is that my counseling will help me find some peace...and soon.My best friend was never sexually into her husband of 10 years. She finally got up the nerve to divorce him. She's now with a man who rocks her world and she laughs at me now. She never understood why I loved sex so much and now she does.
I'm in the camp of life is too short to settle. I can't imagine going my whole life never having experienced mind blowing sex.
I'm 38, he's 41. We married when I was 19. And no, we didn't marry because we "had to". Our one and only child came 4 years later.if it was just the sex problem, i'd think there should be a way to work it out, but you said that he's emotionally neglectful, too, and that speaks volumes more than the sex part, though the sex part is significant. it sounds like you are still young. too young to accept that the rest of your life will be mediocre at best.