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I find this very hard to say, My husband is lousy in bed, he has never given me an orgasm. Not even close.
I have always thought this and to be brutally honest for the last 5 or so years I wonder why I married him. ( I think I thought he would improve ). I've been with him for 16years married for 10. We have two children 9 and 7. I am 41 my H is 43.
We have never really had a very active sex life and that is mostly because of me. He doesn't show me any affection during the day, no cuddling no kissing no touching never trys to spend alone time with me and if I try there is nothing in return. So I mostly don't feel like having sex at night or any other time.
Three months ago I decided that I couldn't live like this any more because I really need affection and to have great sex. I made an appointment with a marriage councillor and told my husband only come along if he is willing to change. We have been twice, I didn't hold back I let it all out except for the lousy in bed.( still hoping it will improve ). There has been no change in him until I called to cancel our next appointment telling the MC I didn't think there was any point in waisting more money. So for the last three days he has made a slight improvement in showing me some affection.
I decided to tell him that he has never given me an orgasm in the hope that he would try to improve in bed, maybe he would do some research and try something different.
Guess what! there has been no improvement. He just has no idea, I know what he likes and I do it. I have tried to show/tell him but he just doesn't get the idea.
I really don't have a question but I need to vent, I am incredibly lonely.
I have always thought this and to be brutally honest for the last 5 or so years I wonder why I married him. ( I think I thought he would improve ). I've been with him for 16years married for 10. We have two children 9 and 7. I am 41 my H is 43.
We have never really had a very active sex life and that is mostly because of me. He doesn't show me any affection during the day, no cuddling no kissing no touching never trys to spend alone time with me and if I try there is nothing in return. So I mostly don't feel like having sex at night or any other time.
Three months ago I decided that I couldn't live like this any more because I really need affection and to have great sex. I made an appointment with a marriage councillor and told my husband only come along if he is willing to change. We have been twice, I didn't hold back I let it all out except for the lousy in bed.( still hoping it will improve ). There has been no change in him until I called to cancel our next appointment telling the MC I didn't think there was any point in waisting more money. So for the last three days he has made a slight improvement in showing me some affection.
I decided to tell him that he has never given me an orgasm in the hope that he would try to improve in bed, maybe he would do some research and try something different.
Guess what! there has been no improvement. He just has no idea, I know what he likes and I do it. I have tried to show/tell him but he just doesn't get the idea.
I really don't have a question but I need to vent, I am incredibly lonely.