[BigDaddyNY]

I did guy is gone,so if that same girl you tried that with if she wouldn't laugh at the joke and was just silent and not telling the guy to cut it out,what would you think if you were the guy doing it?would it give you the impression that the girl likes it?

How do you know he is gone? What is going to stop her from seeing him while they are both out on the road?

Her excuse was I don't see a problem with it,and that's just how he is,she says he been that way his whole life it's hard to just change how you speak on a whim.

How does she know he has been that way his whole life?

 

[Koopatroopa]

How do you know he is gone? What is going to stop her from seeing him while they are both out on the road?

I know for one they are not both at the same DC anymore.but yea how do I know,I did threatn his job with hr he is leasing his truck so any trouble at his DC will spell big trouble.

 

[Koopatroopa]

I know for one they are not both at the same DC anymore.but yea how do I know,I did threatn his job with hr he is leasing his truck so any trouble at his DC will spell big trouble.

I hope that's enough but one way or another I will get to the bottom of this,it's hard because I am emotionally attached to her,if I was a freind or some random person,yea I would totally take everyone's advice.theres something odd if you take emotion out of it.

 

[Koopatroopa]

I just saw this.
Wow, couldn`t make this sh*t up, your wife goes to this guy`s home for thanks giving and how do you know his mother and aunt were there, including your wife is away ON THE JOB for weeks while you take care of the home and kid. This stinks.
Sorry my friend, this is not a marriage, you are being played both by that guy and your wife.
You need to wake up and smell the BS going on around you.

Yea thought that was convenient ran out of drive time right arround his home town,and made me feel guilty if I said no,and yea I already thought that ,the time she was there I didn't have a phone call with her,I saw no pics of it,just words no proof.months before we had a fight I don't know if it was about him or what not but she just told me the other day,that during that time,she called him over because he was in town ie truckstop where she was and he comes over and says I don't want nothing to happen ok,and they discuss our marriage problems and mind you these trucks have beds in the back,curtains from privacy and no one is going to think anything anyways. So yea this is a hard one.

 

[Koopatroopa]

How do you know he is gone? What is going to stop her from seeing him while they are both out on the road?


How does she know he has been that way his whole life?

They talked on the road on the phone sometimes I would be on the phone with her and he would keep on calling finally she would say hey can I put him on the line,after I got upset about the sausage remark,I have been put on hold for hrs on end sometimes and I mean she can lie and say it's whoever.so.

 

[Rubix Cubed]

1.i got her wet then a couple of months go by he cooks some sausage in his truck they eat I was informed of this btw.then the second comment 2.look she got my sausage in her mouth and she likes it.

he said look I don't like you that way and nothings going to happen if I come over.and Thanksgiving of 21 she couldn't make it home so conveniently she was at the right town as she ran out of time to drive her truck and she says Om invited me to his house for Thanksgiving his mom and aunt are there can I go,I said I don't like that idea and she said well I don't want to be alone on Thanksgiving and I want some turkey

she called him over because he was in town ie truckstop where she was and he comes over and says I don't want nothing to happen ok,and they discuss our marriage problems and mind you these trucks have beds in the back,curtains from privacy and no one is going to think anything anyways.

She's having an affair with this guy. I don't care what she "tells" you, there is too much smoke/red flags for there not to be fire.
She's discussing your marriage problems with him in the sleeper of her truck.
Hell, The dude humiliates you while you're on the phone with her and him. He's playing you for a cuckold and enjoying it and she doesn't have enough respect for you to stop him.

 

[ConanHub]

Good grief.

I can't even say all the crap words that this situation is.

You are at least a convenient babysitter. Sheesh dude!

Wake up!

Do you have any job skills?

Can you get some online work?

Unless you just want to keep putting up with this nonsense, you need to figure out how to take care of your kid on your own.

If you believe nothing has been going on, I've got a Chinese balloon story to tell you...🙄

 

[Relentless1]

They talked on the road on the phone sometimes I would be on the phone with her and he would keep on calling finally she would say hey can I put him on the line,after I got upset about the sausage remark,I have been put on hold for hrs on end sometimes and I mean she can lie and say it's whoever.so.

Could you clarify this: Are you saying that she put you on hold for hours to talk to him? If so, I cannot for the life of me think of an innocent reason for that behavior.

I understand you are in a tough position, and it is clear that you love her. If you want to try to reconcile with her, then you really need to know the full truth of what you are being asked to forgive. Otherwise, you are just rug sweeping and that will bite you in the butt in a few years.

Have you looked in her phone/devices? Don't warn her in advance, though, as she will delete like her life depended on it. If you find that she has been lying to you and she has cheated, you might want to think about whether you want to stay with someone who has cheated this early on in the relationship. That does not bode well. I would also be very cautious of sinking any more time into someone who lies.

Can you meet with a couple lawyers (many offer free consultations) to get a sense of where you might stand if she did anything that would cross your boundaries? Knowledge is power.

 

[Koopatroopa]

Could you clarify this: Are you saying that she put you on hold for hours to talk to him? If so, I cannot for the life of me think of an innocent reason for that behavior.

I understand you are in a tough position, and it is clear that you love her. If you want to try to reconcile with her, then you really need to know the full truth of what you are being asked to forgive. Otherwise, you are just rug sweeping and that will bite you in the butt in a few years.

Have you looked in her phone/devices? Don't warn her in advance, though, as she will delete like her life depended on it. If you find that she has been lying to you and she has cheated, you might want to think about whether you want to stay with someone who has cheated this early on in the relationship. That does not bode well. I would also be very cautious of sinking any more time into someone who lies.

Can you meet with a couple lawyers (many offer free consultations) to get a sense of where you might stand if she did anything that would cross your boundaries? Knowledge is power.

Well it's tough, because she is a truck driver OM was a trainie first,so he had to call for work most of the time ,but I am wondering why work talk takes so long,and all that,we had the hard convo last night,still denial anything happened,said no it wasn't right what he was doing ,and no I didn't like it,just thought it didn't bother me,and of course he didn't like me that way and I don't like him that way,and I can tell if a guy wants something like that or is into me,and that's just how he talks to everyone.i didn't think you felt so strong about it blah blah blah.

 

[peace&love]

Well it's tough, because she is a truck driver OM was a trainie first,so he had to call for work most of the time ,but I am wondering why work talk takes so long,and all that,we had the hard convo last night,still denial anything happened,said no it wasn't right what he was doing ,and no I didn't like it,just thought it didn't bother me,and of course he didn't like me that way and I don't like him that way,and I can tell if a guy wants something like that or is into me,and that's just how he talks to everyone.i didn't think you felt so strong about it blah blah blah.

Here is the thing. You busted her. You caught her. Your wife won't admit it cause she knows you possibly will divorce. You put your foot down and said that's enough. Good for you. The only issue here is do you trust her? And do you believe her? If you keep investigating and find out she cheats what would you do? But honestly it's good to see you stand up for yourself and your marriage. Sometimes we have to fight for what we believe in. Good for you

 

[Exit37]

I did that's why when she drooped the D word I said I will file this week and she is not as hostile now ,calling me hunny again,asking am I going to still sleep in the bed with her cause she doesn't want her hunny sleeping on the couch.

Why would you sleep on the couch? Tell her she is the partner with **** boundaries, she’s sleeping on the couch. And mean it. This is what is meant by boundaries with consequences, OP. Stop backing down and stop allowing her to control the narrative.


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[Koopatroopa]

Why would you sleep on the couch? Tell her she is the partner with **** boundaries, she’s sleeping on the couch. And mean it. This is what is meant by boundaries with consequences, OP. Stop backing down and stop allowing her to control the narrative.


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idk I never said that to her.its tough because her government job before this trained her to lie ,make the target believe that she is not a cop or a threat.so it's like being married to a CIA agent you understand and I am emotionally involved,but even after having the hard convo my gut is still saying the truth has not been said.

 

[peace&love]

idk I never said that to her.its tough because her government job before this trained her to lie ,make the target believe that she is not a cop or a threat.so it's like being married to a CIA agent you understand and I am emotionally involved,but even after having the hard convo my gut is still saying the truth has not been said.

You are right 100%

 

[Exit37]

idk I never said that to her.its tough because her government job before this trained her to lie ,make the target believe that she is not a cop or a threat.so it's like being married to a CIA agent you understand and I am emotionally involved,but even after having the hard convo my gut is still saying the truth has not been said.

Well, either her training sucked or that was just another lie from her, because her lies are pretty transparent to all of us. You are being used. She is sleeping with sausage man, and he (and maybe both of them) are getting off on doing that right under your nose. You should be well on your way to D by now, but instead you are taking this abuse from her and her boyfriend. This is just awful to watch, OP.


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[peace&love]

Problem is koopOP can't push to hard or he basically be pushing her into another man's arms. Wife is gone for weeks on end. And talking to her while she is driving about everything doesn't help. No one likes these kinds of talks when working. KOOP honestly is powerless here cause there is no proof other than her wanting OM in her life. But that still doesn't prove anything. As for her lack of respect for KOOP that is a big issue. I feel for KOOP cause of she keeps this job things will most likely never change. Both people had crappy childhoods. Now OP wants to have a family and it seems she doesn't.. that's what hurts the most. Unless she takes a 9 to 5 job where she is home every day this marriage will never change. I wonder if that's why she likes the job she has now so she doesn't have to be home.

 

[Koopatroopa]

Problem is koopOP can't push to hard or he basically be pushing her into another man's arms. Wife is gone for weeks on end. And talking to her while she is driving about everything doesn't help. No one likes these kinds of talks when working. KOOP honestly is powerless here cause there is no proof other than her wanting OM in her life. But that still doesn't prove anything. As for her lack of respect for KOOP that is a big issue. I feel for KOOP cause of she keeps this job things will most likely never change. Both people had crappy childhoods. Now OP wants to have a family and it seems she doesn't.. that's what hurts the most. Unless she takes a 9 to 5 job where she is home every day this marriage will never change. I wonder if that's why she likes the job she has now so she doesn't have to be home.

Exactly because nothing is 100% sides to every story and there might be a chance I am wrong even though my gut is still screaming at me.her ex cheated so she cheated told him about it and he took her son and slapped her with child support,so even more of a reason not to tell me any truth ,because she is afraid the same thing is going to happen.

 

[peace&love]

Exactly because nothing is 100% sides to every story and there might be a chance I am wrong even though my gut is still screaming at me.her ex cheated so she cheated told him about it and he took her son and slapped her with child support,so even more of a reason not to tell me any truth ,because she is afraid the same thing is going to happen.

I understand completely now. Your just stuck between being wrong and losing the woman you love or being right and being made a fool of. Has she thought of changing jobs to save her family or is that job so important she is willing to lose her family again over it?

 

[Koopatroopa]

I understand completely now. Your just stuck between being wrong and losing the woman you love or being right and being made a fool of. Has she thought of changing jobs to save her family or is that job so important she is willing to lose her family again over it?

Well funny thing,she just got a promotion at her job while this was going on just yesterday she was told and yes she will be on the office and has a option to still drive when she wants for recovery loads,so she would be home every night.so yea her job just changed in our favor,but still I don't want to live with this if I can't trust what she says that's not fair to me our son or her,but my gut it will not stop,am I being over jealous or insecure?and your right about what you said.

 

[peace&love]

Well funny thing,she just got a promotion at her job while this was going on just yesterday she was told and yes she will be on the office and has a option to still drive when she wants for recovery loads,so she would be home every night.so yea her job just changed in our favor,but still I don't want to live with this if I can't trust what she says that's not fair to me our son or her,but my gut it will not stop,am I being over jealous or insecure?and your right about what you said.

That is good news actually. Now the real test will begin. Does she choose to stay in office as much as she can to be with her family or does she choose to drive on the road as much as she can. If it were me and you truly love her watch for this and don't fight with her about any of this OM stuff. Be the loving, supportive husband and father you are and see what she chooses to do. Then your gut will know one way or another what is true or not.

 

[peace&love]

And your not being insecure or jealous at all. Your reacting off of the actions of your wife. Your reacting off of being disrespected. Your looking at the facts and saying to yourself is this a possibility. It's called being normal and human.