I spent nearly 2 decades with a man who had more issues than I can even account. And he didn't care. I was never an a**. It's a choiceYour disdain and pride WILL effectively kill your marriage whether your wife makes changes or not. And she DOES need to make changes. But so do you, sir.
You are probably right, but if someone has wronged you and you are at the point of destroying a family. I think anyone would call out the person whether by name or not. Proof of point I am here asking strangers for advice.
I may not be the take charge "man" I should be, but at least I am seeking different opinions.
Calling her out is nothing compared to the damage she has done.
As for my children, I have not told them anything they already didn't figure out. If I truly wanted to play my almost adult children. I could tell them a fraction of their mom's past and that would do it.
Do I have problems, yes, I here. Do I want to have a better future, yes, I am here. Will it happen ....... that is initially up to my wife.