Hi. Just joined today so please be gentle.
The big question on my mind is how to make my family (starting with my wife) happy :smthumbup:
I have a marriage which has been dragged through hell but the fight is finally getting somewhere slowly.
Happy, healthy and confident parents are what my kids need so I keep going with that carrot ahead.
I don't depend on my wife to make me happy. Sure when she is in need, she loves my cuddles and kind words, but I feel like a failure when I can't make her happy during relaxed times.
I want to build...I think the next step is make her extra happy when the going is good.
One of the control methods and impacts of fear-based people became evident during our worse years. If they choose to go down this path, a spouse won't let you make them happy. They can also be in a state were they don't know what makes them happy so can't communicate it to you.
Has anyone literally been able to "learn" happiness and how to spread it throughout their relationship and family?
The big question on my mind is how to make my family (starting with my wife) happy :smthumbup:
I have a marriage which has been dragged through hell but the fight is finally getting somewhere slowly.
Happy, healthy and confident parents are what my kids need so I keep going with that carrot ahead.
I don't depend on my wife to make me happy. Sure when she is in need, she loves my cuddles and kind words, but I feel like a failure when I can't make her happy during relaxed times.
I want to build...I think the next step is make her extra happy when the going is good.
One of the control methods and impacts of fear-based people became evident during our worse years. If they choose to go down this path, a spouse won't let you make them happy. They can also be in a state were they don't know what makes them happy so can't communicate it to you.
Has anyone literally been able to "learn" happiness and how to spread it throughout their relationship and family?