Things are not settled yet, at the moment we're co-operating very well but things are still volatile. I have yet to answer her when she asked me "I never really meant much to you" because I don't want to answer that. However I can't dodge it forever, and we'll still have to co-operate until we get into the new routine.
How do I ensure that we remain on positive friendly relations? How do I answer her questions for closure without risking possible resentment/anger/pain/etc etc which can jeopardise our situation even further and make it more difficult for me, herself, and our daughter? I'm not interested in reconciliation at the moment, what if she is, how do I handle that?
I need this time to live a life without her, and in my opinion she needs to as well. We've done nothing but made each other worse and worse over the years. And all of this I do not feel ready to discuss with my STBX, but knowing how stubborn she was (and still is), I can't avoid this for long.
This is going to be a learning experience for both of us... I think, if we can establish a healthy dynamic as best friends like we used to be 7 years ago, perhaps there is still a slim chance of reconciliation. However, I'm going to need to second-guess my moves as it looks like it's now or never when it comes to changing our dynamics for the better, I don't want to fall back into the same trap for the last 4 years - we were living in a snow globe so to speak.
Your thoughts?
