I didn't want to hijack another thread, so I started a new one. My x wife had low sel-esteem coming into our relationship. She wasn't physically abused, but she just never got any positive comments from her mother. She always got the feeling she would never amount to anything and that she was stupid. She was always the "good-girl" in her family. She was the one that didn't give her parents any grief, and i think she felt like that should deserve some positive reactions, but it didn't. Has anyone else here suffered from low self-esteem or been with someone in a relationship who had it. Does this create a different role for the other person in dealing with this, even though it may seem to "go-away," are there still certain things this person needs that others may not long-term? The following was posted in another thread.
This is a primary driver (or anti-driver in this case) here. If someone has pathologically damaged self esteem from childhood or early adult experiences, marital love on it's own will not be enough to overcome the dysfunction. Current estimates indicate that 25-33% of American women were sexually abused at some point in their childhood. This has to play out badly in their adulthood.