Indie,
Have you seen a lawyer yet? It might be helpful to know what your rights are with regards to children's custody and ownership of the house.
With regards to going back, I would say if you don't love him, don't go back. You are entitled to having a life full of joy and love. If you go back to him, will you have that? "Love is a choice", I think that works for dealing with people around you, mostly about being respectful and treating others fairly. But between a H and W, you can't force yourself to love someone, especially with the infidelity and lying. Those are big issues that need to be resolved before you can improve your relationship to the point that the love comes naturally.
You will need to really work on your relationship with your kids so they don't feel abandoned by you. It's important to talk with them every day. Try to see them as often as possible. Make sure you know what is going on in their life. Are they old enough to understand why you had to leave? Some counselling might be helpful for you and the children so they can understand your point of view. The most important thing is for the kids to know that you didn't leave because of them and your leaving has not changed how you feel about them.
I hope you are able to find some peace!
Have you seen a lawyer yet? It might be helpful to know what your rights are with regards to children's custody and ownership of the house.
With regards to going back, I would say if you don't love him, don't go back. You are entitled to having a life full of joy and love. If you go back to him, will you have that? "Love is a choice", I think that works for dealing with people around you, mostly about being respectful and treating others fairly. But between a H and W, you can't force yourself to love someone, especially with the infidelity and lying. Those are big issues that need to be resolved before you can improve your relationship to the point that the love comes naturally.
You will need to really work on your relationship with your kids so they don't feel abandoned by you. It's important to talk with them every day. Try to see them as often as possible. Make sure you know what is going on in their life. Are they old enough to understand why you had to leave? Some counselling might be helpful for you and the children so they can understand your point of view. The most important thing is for the kids to know that you didn't leave because of them and your leaving has not changed how you feel about them.
I hope you are able to find some peace!