I'm in a desperate situation here and I need help.
I'm losing my best friend, my wife. We have been married for 2 years and together for 7. A little history of us first. We met in college through some friends. Dated for 5 years and split up a few times during that time. Those breakups were initiated by me being an idiot young man and not wanting to commit. About a year before we were engaged we moved in together. Bought a house 6 months ago. She is a nurse and I am in-between jobs.
Myself - I'm not in the running for the Best Husband Award anytime soon and its finally hit home for me. I never truly treated my best friend the way she deserved and wanted. She told me many times that I needed to change or she wouldn't be able to stay. Well I made changes a few months ago as I realized I was losing my wife for real and I didn't want that, EVER!
About 2 months ago I noticed some changes. She told me she was losing the feelings she once had for me and that she wasn't sure what she wanted to do in regards to our marriage. We discussed what some of the problems are/were and she praised me for making huge strides in changing my attitude the last few months but that it may be too little, too late. We chose to work through our problems and revitalize our marriage.
Two weeks passed and things seemed better but I could tell she was still distant. Yesterday she told me she couldn't do this (marriage) anymore and asked me to move out for awhile. I left for the night and returned home (can't keep a hotel forever) to figure out where I was going to stay. She says she's not actively seeking a lawyer for D and she's not so sure she wants this to be a Trial Separation. She says she needs time for herself and space to figure out if our marriage is worth staying in.
I'm losing my best friend in the world. I can't think of a life without her. I have very few friends in the city we live so no real social support. Most, if not all, of my friends are hers as well. I have a couple of close friends here but they are in serious relationships so I can't count on being around them all the time for support.
I don't know what to do! I don't know where to turn! I'm seriously scared to death of leaving our home and having to start over without her. I need help. I need advice.
I've read The 180 a couple of times and plan on using that as a foundation to rebuild.
I'm losing my best friend, my wife. We have been married for 2 years and together for 7. A little history of us first. We met in college through some friends. Dated for 5 years and split up a few times during that time. Those breakups were initiated by me being an idiot young man and not wanting to commit. About a year before we were engaged we moved in together. Bought a house 6 months ago. She is a nurse and I am in-between jobs.
Myself - I'm not in the running for the Best Husband Award anytime soon and its finally hit home for me. I never truly treated my best friend the way she deserved and wanted. She told me many times that I needed to change or she wouldn't be able to stay. Well I made changes a few months ago as I realized I was losing my wife for real and I didn't want that, EVER!
About 2 months ago I noticed some changes. She told me she was losing the feelings she once had for me and that she wasn't sure what she wanted to do in regards to our marriage. We discussed what some of the problems are/were and she praised me for making huge strides in changing my attitude the last few months but that it may be too little, too late. We chose to work through our problems and revitalize our marriage.
Two weeks passed and things seemed better but I could tell she was still distant. Yesterday she told me she couldn't do this (marriage) anymore and asked me to move out for awhile. I left for the night and returned home (can't keep a hotel forever) to figure out where I was going to stay. She says she's not actively seeking a lawyer for D and she's not so sure she wants this to be a Trial Separation. She says she needs time for herself and space to figure out if our marriage is worth staying in.
I'm losing my best friend in the world. I can't think of a life without her. I have very few friends in the city we live so no real social support. Most, if not all, of my friends are hers as well. I have a couple of close friends here but they are in serious relationships so I can't count on being around them all the time for support.
I don't know what to do! I don't know where to turn! I'm seriously scared to death of leaving our home and having to start over without her. I need help. I need advice.
I've read The 180 a couple of times and plan on using that as a foundation to rebuild.