Save it on the petition.
AR has already corresponded with him and indicated that he won't be coming back.
No. He wasn't perma-banned.
His last ban was the result of chasing off yet another betrayed husband that came here looking for support during one of the most painful life events one can face.
Arguing with a new member that he cannot be certain of the paternity of his children while that guy is trying to come to grips with his partners infidelity is NOT helpful, or respectful in any way shape, or form.
Telling the same user, he can choose 'to not face the truth and slink away from the forum' after the user has posted that he feels attacked and that coming here was a mistake, is more than a little counter-productive.
Are there harsh truths about infidelity? Of course there are ... but if the manner in which they are delivered means that the individual they were intended for removes their posts, PM's the mods that they are leaving and why, then the entire exercise has been a waste of time. Both for the poster, and the respondent.
lordmayhem's ban will expire. Whether or not he chooses to come back will be up to him.