Me and my wife have been together 14 years, and married for almost 12. We have 3 great children (one of them is 16 months). I am 33 she is 32. So far my life has been great. We were best friends, love life is fantastic, communication a little weak, but not to bad. Recently in the last few weeks she had really pulled away. I asked if anything was wrong and she said no everything is fine. So another week goes by and I finally asked her again what was wrong. Then it came out. She says she feels trapped, smothered, confused, lost and doesn't know what to do. She's thinking of leaving and doesn't know why. She says this has been building for about 4 years, but I never saw it, and I know her, I never did see it. I suggested counseling, but she says if both of us aren't into it then it won't work. I am willing to try. I am devastated and have no idea what's going on in her head. She swears up and own it's not another man, and I'm starting to believe that. Is there possibly a fix for this?