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I agree with that as well. My dilemma is that I have a heart. I grew up in a small town, and my family always had values. Like I previously said, i can get loud during an argument. But I never laid a hand on her nor would I. The only time I did is when she came after me with a knife, i grabbed her hand with the knife in it and threw her on the ground, as again, I was absolutely terrified.

I want to thank everyone for the advice so far. She's been through 2 prior divorces, so this is another day for her. But this is why i was always so nervous about marriage. But she won my heart, and now I'm the one in pain. Seems like another day for her.

I don't know why, but i still love her, and that's why I don't want anything to happen to her. But I guess it's time for me to realize she has no boundaries, a crime was committed, and should be reported. And I guess time will heal my heart.
You love the woman she made herself out to be, through early love bombing.
She is not that woman. You have now seem through the facade.
Act accordingly, and protect yourself.
 

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I don't know why, but i still love her, and that's why I don't want anything to happen to her. But I guess it's time for me to realize she has no boundaries, a crime was committed, and should be reported. And I guess time will heal my heart.
She is not mentally stable and you are in an abusive relationship. I understand having feelings of love for her and maybe a part of you wanting to save/rescue her. But she is what she is and she is not going to change. It doesn't matter if you love her or feel sorry for her, her brain doesn't work that way. This cycle will repeat and repeat and repeat. Just make sure you are not the person she repeats it on. Get free of this toxic woman and when you'r ready, go find yourself a woman WORTHY of your kind heart.
 

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Nope, shes leaving it in the case. Which surprises me because she will also get into trouble for forgery.

I haven't retained an attorney yet. Unfortunately not able to afford it as of yet.
Do ANYTHING to get a lawyer ASAP. There is nothing she won't resort to. I am not speculating, you have seen that.
 

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You are completely right about this being a typical abusive relationship. Abusers quite often try to flip the script. Many cops have been trained to watch for this, but, being male handicapped you.

Abusers want to claim full victim status and evade all personal responsibility for their behavior.

To the OP:

As for the child; living in a household with an abuser is abuse, by definition. When the abuser is your own mother; that’s as awful as it can get. The child has been victimized and needs to be in therapy. There is no doubt that you both have some PTSD. Be sure to look for a trauma recovery specialist.

We now know that even infants *in utero* know when there parents are arguing and it disrupts normal development. We must never delude ourselves into thinking that there is such a thing as “we never fight in front of the children”.


I’m a notary. It is a crime to carry out a false notarization. You would do well to cover yourself by reporting that notary to the notary commission of your state, probably your Secretary of State. The notary should lose his/her commission.
However, you might also be able to use it as a bargaining chip to get her to admit to the court that the DV charges are all false. You can talk to a lawyer about this. Plus, if she loses her job, you might end up having to pay her support for a while. You were married for a very short time, so maybe support would not be an issue. Again, a lawyer can help you with that.

Is she still trying to use the fake prenup, or has she dropped that?


Does she abuse her child?

Your situation sounds like a typical abusive relationship. It took you a while but at least you got out of it. The rule for abuse is the first time someone abuses you; the relationship has to end. If they will do it once, they will do it again and again and again.
I’m glad that you are ending this marriage. She’s clearly an abusive woman and you should not be anywhere near her. With her false claims of a lost pregnancy and DV, you should never be in any place alone with her.

Do you have a lawyer to represent you in the divorce?
 

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This is an abusive relationship. Period. Please get out now. And report to authorities. I am not a lawyer, but I suspect that YOU will be held accountable if you DO NOT report fraud etc when you know about it, especially with regards to the judicial system. You sound like a nice guy. Apparently that’s your problem. Read No More Mr Nice Guy and implement. I like what someone said in another thread. Block all emotions except anger (and outrage). Harden your heart. And please, report to CPS. That child is in danger. Trust me on this one.
 
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