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Hello all, I want one and want to tell my husband how to give me one.
I keep thinking I'll buy the book, "She Comes First," and give it to my husband, but I've bought other sex books with tips and asked him to read and he won't, so I think I just have to tell him, which I will any night now. After reading lots here over the last few weeks, I am slowly losing my shyness and feeling more bold about asking him to try new ways to use his fingers and mouth on me. I don't think he takes me seriously, though, and must think he's a fabulous lover that doesn't need any advice.
On Sat. night, he was using his fingers on my clitoris, which he rubs with a vengeance, which is really too forceful and hard, and asked him to trace letters, like an S and small n. I think he thought that must be ridiculous. He did each letter once, although I couldn't recognize any letters, then reverted back to the aggressive rubbing.
I know I need to have a more direct conversation with him and ask him to try new techniques so that I can have a more fulfilling sex life. I know I'd look forward and want sex more if I enjoyed it more.
And although I'm looking for tips for oral sex, the G-spot orgasm is elusive to me, even with the use of a G-spot vibrator. I'm not looking for a mind-blowing vaginal orgasm - any kind of vaginal orgasm would be a good place to start there, but I'm mainly asking about a clitoral orgasm, since I know I can do that.
I keep thinking I'll buy the book, "She Comes First," and give it to my husband, but I've bought other sex books with tips and asked him to read and he won't, so I think I just have to tell him, which I will any night now. After reading lots here over the last few weeks, I am slowly losing my shyness and feeling more bold about asking him to try new ways to use his fingers and mouth on me. I don't think he takes me seriously, though, and must think he's a fabulous lover that doesn't need any advice.
On Sat. night, he was using his fingers on my clitoris, which he rubs with a vengeance, which is really too forceful and hard, and asked him to trace letters, like an S and small n. I think he thought that must be ridiculous. He did each letter once, although I couldn't recognize any letters, then reverted back to the aggressive rubbing.
I know I need to have a more direct conversation with him and ask him to try new techniques so that I can have a more fulfilling sex life. I know I'd look forward and want sex more if I enjoyed it more.
And although I'm looking for tips for oral sex, the G-spot orgasm is elusive to me, even with the use of a G-spot vibrator. I'm not looking for a mind-blowing vaginal orgasm - any kind of vaginal orgasm would be a good place to start there, but I'm mainly asking about a clitoral orgasm, since I know I can do that.