I'll make one suggestion.
Ask him to read what you've posted, and the replies, etc on here.
Yes, I know that is going to really open up lots of issues, but it shows him that you really, really want to get to a better place.
Just a thought, even if you don't use it now, keep it in mind.
A lot of us are able to open up here in ways that it's very difficult to do with loved ones, friends, etc.
I suppose because it is anonymous. We know that we can be judged, sometimes heavily criticised. But we also know that a lot of the people replying will try to give good advice, to be fair. That even if the replies will be painful, they will not balk at it, but will say what they see.
Whatever you do, or decide to do, good luck.
Ask him to read what you've posted, and the replies, etc on here.
Yes, I know that is going to really open up lots of issues, but it shows him that you really, really want to get to a better place.
Just a thought, even if you don't use it now, keep it in mind.
A lot of us are able to open up here in ways that it's very difficult to do with loved ones, friends, etc.
I suppose because it is anonymous. We know that we can be judged, sometimes heavily criticised. But we also know that a lot of the people replying will try to give good advice, to be fair. That even if the replies will be painful, they will not balk at it, but will say what they see.
Whatever you do, or decide to do, good luck.