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Hello everyone!
I'm a first time poster but have been lurking for quite a few months, I quite like this site as there seems to be a fair few 'call it as they see it' types posting, and that's what I'm really after.
Anyway, the situation...
I'm married, male and 41. My wife is 39, we have no children. We own our home, paid the mortgage off some years ago. About 4 months ago I was made redundant from my job (£29,000), my wife continues in her job (£24,000). I said at the time that I wanted to take a break from work entirely for a while (maybe 3-4 months) as I've always worked and my last position was extremely tiring and had been making me grumpy and irritable in the extreme.
I had a £3k payoff from the job so could continue paying what I always had into the joint account (she pays the same and everything done jointly comes from that account, from household bills to food). That £3k is now down to under £1k.
Recently I decided to start a job hunt and to that end mentioned that I wanted to take £2k from our joint savings (£12k) and transfer into the joint checking account to cover my half of the joint expenditure for the next few months - just in case my job hunt goes poorly. I already owe the joint savings £900 as I took that out to pay for a holiday at the start of the year, before I knew I'd be redundant. So in total I'd owe the joint savings £3k.
My wife took this very badly and we had an argument about it - pretty much our first ever argument about money in the 12 years of our marriage.
My reasoning was that I didn't want her to feel that she would have to pay more to cover me and that I'd feel happier knowing my half of all the bills etc would be covered for at least six months.
I do have my own personal savings but just before my redundancy I converted most of them into artwork (I've always dealt in art and am confident of buying for investment), and if I had to liquidate a piece/pieces to raise the £2k I'd probably make a loss and I didn't really want to do that until the market has recovered somewhat.
Anyway, sorry for the length of this, but am I being unreasonable or is my wife within her rights to go mad about it?
Opinions appreciated!
I'm a first time poster but have been lurking for quite a few months, I quite like this site as there seems to be a fair few 'call it as they see it' types posting, and that's what I'm really after.
Anyway, the situation...
I'm married, male and 41. My wife is 39, we have no children. We own our home, paid the mortgage off some years ago. About 4 months ago I was made redundant from my job (£29,000), my wife continues in her job (£24,000). I said at the time that I wanted to take a break from work entirely for a while (maybe 3-4 months) as I've always worked and my last position was extremely tiring and had been making me grumpy and irritable in the extreme.
I had a £3k payoff from the job so could continue paying what I always had into the joint account (she pays the same and everything done jointly comes from that account, from household bills to food). That £3k is now down to under £1k.
Recently I decided to start a job hunt and to that end mentioned that I wanted to take £2k from our joint savings (£12k) and transfer into the joint checking account to cover my half of the joint expenditure for the next few months - just in case my job hunt goes poorly. I already owe the joint savings £900 as I took that out to pay for a holiday at the start of the year, before I knew I'd be redundant. So in total I'd owe the joint savings £3k.
My wife took this very badly and we had an argument about it - pretty much our first ever argument about money in the 12 years of our marriage.
My reasoning was that I didn't want her to feel that she would have to pay more to cover me and that I'd feel happier knowing my half of all the bills etc would be covered for at least six months.
I do have my own personal savings but just before my redundancy I converted most of them into artwork (I've always dealt in art and am confident of buying for investment), and if I had to liquidate a piece/pieces to raise the £2k I'd probably make a loss and I didn't really want to do that until the market has recovered somewhat.
Anyway, sorry for the length of this, but am I being unreasonable or is my wife within her rights to go mad about it?
Opinions appreciated!